Friday is the big day

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Friday is the big day
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:42am

I am sooo nervous!

 

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:32am

Aravis,

My thoughts are with you as you go through this tough time. My hope is that you can either make additional changes or work from home or very part time in order to complete your schooling.

In the end it will all be worth it and I am sure that it will all work out.

HUGS
stacy

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:33am

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. I hope your Dh's new payment is manageable without you having to give up homeschooling your son.

Pat

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:35am

Hang in there Aravis. You are still young and have plenty of time to have children with your husband. (I'm sure it doesn't feel like it at times though!) Maybe it just isn't meant to be right now with everything else going on, but will come to you as a blessing at a later time.

Heather

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 11:13am

All I can offer you is some hugs and that we are there for you!!!


I know once you know the details you can then think a bit more clearly.

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:55pm

Thank you for your support ladies.

 

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 1:28pm

I wish you well. Hope you can find a way to pay the extra expense without too much pain. I know he doesn't see his kids now, but will he ask for visitations? Maybe remembering that the cs payments will go to the children will help you better tolerate it--don't they need that money to live a good life?

Don't totally give up on the child wish--our bodies sometimes surprise us. I know several women who did not use birth control because they were told they "couldn't" have children who are now mommies. I, myself, had an unplanned, tag-a-long, "despite birth control" child at age 37. She is the light of our lives now and her much older sibs adore her. Also, you might get an opportunity to be in the lives of your hubby's kids.

ANYTHING can happen!

Best wishes,
Momsacupcake

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 2:34pm

<<I know he doesn't see his kids now, but will he ask for visitations?>>


He has a lawyer working on that right now.

 

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 11:08am

Well, I'm sending you wishes of good luck.

You're so right, "not knowing" makes ME absolutely CRAZY!!!!!!!!!

It must be terrible for your husband with them living far away. (Sometimes my evil twin prays for a job transfer far, far away for my ex.)

Hopefully the amount won't be the full $310.

Shoot, I'm divorced myself, have two grown kids, one kid with me full time now and one kid dividing time between the two homes. Wish I could get some CS to help with the household bills/food! I don't get one red cent from him now. He does provide insurance, which doesn't cost him anything--company pays for dependents. He does reimburse me for some of the girls' expenses and pays some of their extracurricular stuff directly, but I foot the bill for after school care, and everything else and my ex outearns me by over $100,000. It's kinda tough on me.

I confess I get quite green when he buys new cars and goes on fancy vacations and I drive a 6YO van and live paycheck to paycheck.

But I know I'm preaching to the choir here, because you've said your son receives nothing from his Dad.

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Registered: 12-12-2004
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 6:32pm
Hi, Aravis. I am sending hugs your way. I can see from your posts that you are on pins and needles waiting. I probably would be spinning my wheels doing the "what if's" also. Eat a small meal before you go---the B12 vitamins, calcium, and protein should calm your stomach butterflies--i.e., hard-boiled egg, yogurt, small salad with almonds, mandarin oranges, etc. I find if I dont eat in the morning anymore, I am a mess. Just remember, whatever happens, it is not the end of everything--you have support, you're going to school to reach your goal, etc, and you have a good heart. Wishing you calm thoughts tomorrow, girlfriend. Whiz.
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Registered: 03-15-2006
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 6:57pm
Just wanted to add my prayers and good thoughts for you. I hope everything works out. Tomorrow is Friday, so at least it isn't as long to wait as at the start of the week. Take care.