Gave my friend a bill

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Gave my friend a bill
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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 7:12pm
I gave my friend a bill today for the $1,000.00 he owes me. He had borrowed a total of $2,000.00 from me a year ago -- not all at once -- and he actually paid back $1,000.00 of it. Now tho he is constantly talking about no having $$$$ and he makes the same salary I do. He was going to make payments on the $1000.00 he still owes but for the past year has paid nothing. So today I gave him a bill -- with the dates when I gave him the various amounts and the date he paid back the $1000.00. I felt really uncomfortable giving him the bill!!! What's wrong with me? We can barely make ends meet. I wonder if people borrow $$ from people that they know would be uncomfortable asking for it back??
Anyway, it totally taught me a lesson -- obviously I won't lend him any more money -- but I won't lend anyone any money unless we sign some kind of agreement and plan for repayment. Basically, I just don't plan to lend any money. We just don't have it to lend. But there was always some desperate reason why he needed it. I am such a pushover. But I really think I am over it. By the way, I'm married -- this was not a boy friend -- just a friend at work. Hopefully he will step up -- otherwise work could become uncomfortable. And the thing is, even if I wanted to go to small claims court -- really I have no proof that I gave him the money -- lots of it was cash, and I never asked him to sign anything. I'm an idiot.
Thanks for listening.
Megan

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 10:15pm
Megan, you made a good decision.

 

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 10:35pm
Hi Aravis -- I think you're right. I will send him a monthly bill. I should have long before now.
Megan
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 5:10pm

Good for you! And, to get you covered, the next time you talk to him about it and he gives you a verbal promise (I'll pay you next week, or whatever), ask him to write it down. That way, you'll have proof that he knows he owes you this money, and if it does come to court (fingers crossed it won't), you'll have the case in the bag.

You should be proud of yourself for standing up for yourself! Way to go!

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 10:32pm

I agree with the other posters! You shouldn't feel bad for asking for money that he OWES you and you have PATIENTLY waited for. I think this is a good first step and hopefully he will get the picture. Let us know how it turns out!

Bex


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Registered: 01-06-2005
Wed, 05-31-2006 - 4:14pm
It's about time for your friend's monthly statement!

 

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 12:41am
Oh Aravis you are right!!!!! I'll do it tomorrow. Groan
Thanks for remembering.
Megan
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Registered: 01-06-2005
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 10:32am

Megan, has your friend made ANY EFFORT to start paying you back yet???

 

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 8:21pm
Hi Aravis -
Guess what? I asked him for the payment today and he "forgot his bank card" -- yeah, right.
So I told him OK but I need it tomorrow. We'll see. I'm on a roll. Hopefully something will show up. What an idiot I was.
Megan
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Registered: 01-06-2005
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 9:53pm
Megan, forgot his bank card?

 

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 2:20am
Aravis -- yeah the bank card was pretty lame. My DH knows the friend owes us money, but to be honest, he doesn't know how much or that he is not paying. I am feeling less like a pushover now, honestly, I'm tired of this -- so I'm going to keep asking every day until he gives me a payment, and then I'll start again next month.
Megan

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