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Gave my friend a bill
| Mon, 05-08-2006 - 7:12pm |
I gave my friend a bill today for the $1,000.00 he owes me. He had borrowed a total of $2,000.00 from me a year ago -- not all at once -- and he actually paid back $1,000.00 of it. Now tho he is constantly talking about no having $$$$ and he makes the same salary I do. He was going to make payments on the $1000.00 he still owes but for the past year has paid nothing. So today I gave him a bill -- with the dates when I gave him the various amounts and the date he paid back the $1000.00. I felt really uncomfortable giving him the bill!!! What's wrong with me? We can barely make ends meet. I wonder if people borrow $$ from people that they know would be uncomfortable asking for it back??
Anyway, it totally taught me a lesson -- obviously I won't lend him any more money -- but I won't lend anyone any money unless we sign some kind of agreement and plan for repayment. Basically, I just don't plan to lend any money. We just don't have it to lend. But there was always some desperate reason why he needed it. I am such a pushover. But I really think I am over it. By the way, I'm married -- this was not a boy friend -- just a friend at work. Hopefully he will step up -- otherwise work could become uncomfortable. And the thing is, even if I wanted to go to small claims court -- really I have no proof that I gave him the money -- lots of it was cash, and I never asked him to sign anything. I'm an idiot.
Thanks for listening.
Megan
Anyway, it totally taught me a lesson -- obviously I won't lend him any more money -- but I won't lend anyone any money unless we sign some kind of agreement and plan for repayment. Basically, I just don't plan to lend any money. We just don't have it to lend. But there was always some desperate reason why he needed it. I am such a pushover. But I really think I am over it. By the way, I'm married -- this was not a boy friend -- just a friend at work. Hopefully he will step up -- otherwise work could become uncomfortable. And the thing is, even if I wanted to go to small claims court -- really I have no proof that I gave him the money -- lots of it was cash, and I never asked him to sign anything. I'm an idiot.
Thanks for listening.
Megan

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Megan
Good for you! And, to get you covered, the next time you talk to him about it and he gives you a verbal promise (I'll pay you next week, or whatever), ask him to write it down. That way, you'll have proof that he knows he owes you this money, and if it does come to court (fingers crossed it won't), you'll have the case in the bag.
You should be proud of yourself for standing up for yourself! Way to go!
I agree with the other posters! You shouldn't feel bad for asking for money that he OWES you and you have PATIENTLY waited for. I think this is a good first step and hopefully he will get the picture. Let us know how it turns out!
Bex
Bex -
Thanks for remembering.
Megan
Megan, has your friend made ANY EFFORT to start paying you back yet???
Guess what? I asked him for the payment today and he "forgot his bank card" -- yeah, right.
So I told him OK but I need it tomorrow. We'll see. I'm on a roll. Hopefully something will show up. What an idiot I was.
Megan
Megan
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