Thanks.

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Registered: 09-20-2004
Thanks.
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Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:57pm
Thanks everybody for your kind words... I am really at a loss about what will happen next for us. I know things are going to take quite awhile to sort out around here.... I am really having a hard time accepting that things have gone the way they have. I thought we would have a little time...I hoped we would. Anyhow, I will take it slow, i have my husband and kids, but have never felt so alone. One foot in front of the other,
Heather
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Registered: 12-12-2004
In reply to: herege
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 3:30pm
My dear Heather---We are here for you in support, prayer, thoughts, words, each in our own way. Even though your journey is private and personal, the grief stages are a common thread---anger, denial, bargaining, etc., and finally, acceptance for whatever that may be, in time. You didnt mention if your DF had hospice or not, but the tools and groups are helpful--from journaling and making memory books, to calls, etc. When my DF passed, I had a box. It is somewhere in the house, but I dont know where--I think DH put it in the attic. If memory serves, there were some mementos, photos, small rocks (his rock collection), a guitar pic, etc. I had written a letter with all of my feelings, etc,.and sealed it. Each night, for several months, I remember taking that box from the shelf, and "putting" my anger, guilt, sadness, etc. in there, symbolically and with catharsis, sometimes writing stuff, and placing it back on the shelf. Anyway, I am sharing this in hopes you find your peace and strength as well. Fondly, Whiz.