Aiming for family-centered...

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Aiming for family-centered...
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Sat, 05-20-2006 - 10:01am
As you guys know, my dh and I have no idea where we will be, say, 6 months from now. Usually, when we move, we look for areas that have the best school districts for our daughter, good access to therapies, etc. We end up renting one of the cheapest places in that area, not really liking where we live, just to get our daughter where we think she should be. We have started looking again, and rent will be over $1000. Now on the other hand, we have started thinking that maybe we should just move somewhere cheaper for a few years and homeschool our daughters. we would have access to an excellent curriculum online for free in our state (through open enrollment) and there are seriously decent houses in more rural areas in the $75,000 range. Once our debts are paid down, we could move again if we wanted, but this is getting nuts for us. I don't see us ever getting ahead if things do not change. We can't afford a $200,000+ house. we can't afford to move a long distance again..I mean we can, but I am so tired right now.
I don't know how to do it. we need to get off the ride for a little while. We need to create a sense of calm for our family. I wouldn't even necessarily be opposed to trailer living at this point just to escape the madness. When all is said and done, i am still my daughter's best teacher, so maybe that is the role I should play for awhile.
Anyhow, just wanted to share and maybe get some input as to whether you guys think I am going off the deep end. ...Heather
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Sat, 05-20-2006 - 7:36pm

Heather-

If you were a fly on the wall at our house you would hear the same conversations!! We currently own a town home but we have $40k equity that if we sold would pay off all of our debt except some of our student loans...way better than we are rightnow. PLUS, we are planning on HS anyway. I would say go for it! You still have the benefit of state ed help if you need it and no one can do better by their kids than mom. My oldest dd is special needs and she definitely learns better one on one...whether from me or someone else so we are going for it.

I would say talk about it, talk about it some more and go for it! There is a really good HS board on ivillage and I am pretty sure they even have a section for spec needs HS.

Let us know what you decide!

Loca

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Sat, 05-20-2006 - 10:47pm

No, you are not going off the deep end.

Ok, let me preface this by saying I am a big believer in signs and things happening for a reason, but when I read your post, the first thing I thought was "Wow, maybe that's why Heather needed to come home." You were not able to spend nearly as much time as you wanted to with your dad, but you seem pretty comfortable and familiar dealing with amenities in your home state (special ed, places to live, etc.) Maybe you needed to come "home" because that will be the best place to raise and educate your family.

Ok, I know I'm sounding wacky now, but that was just my first impression. I know you will consider everything carefully and make the best decision for your family.

-Sarah

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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 11:11am

Hi Heather, I am a mostly lurker here, but we were in a similar situation.

Sheri Ann

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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 3:43pm

Heather, we actually live in a good school district, but I know we won't live here forever (our lease is up in April).

 

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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 10:20pm

Hello Heather,


I would suggest that you find as cheap a place to live as you can (without endangering your family)

Sincerely,
Lindsey Schocke

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