Moving back to Wisconsin

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Registered: 09-20-2004
Moving back to Wisconsin
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Sun, 05-28-2006 - 7:05pm

We talked it over, and decided we will move back to where we came from, hopefully before September, and call our time here "Life, interrupted". Financially, it is not the best move...BUT who knows how much we would be shelling out in lawyers fees if the schools here don't budge. Our daughter will have the same special ed teacher in charge for another three years in Wisconsin, and we couldn't ask for a better teacher for her. It won't take too mcuh for our kids to adjust to living in the same place much quicker than moving into yet another place. we will have our support network back. We will plan to move south, which was our original plan, 3-5 years down the road.
We will take half the money from my dh's paychecks to finance this move. My check will pay the bills until then. We won't move until dh has a job lined up up there.

I cannot handle the task of cleaning out my parents home by myslef either...my sibs would like me to stay and take care of it so that when the house is sold we get a higher price, etc, but then they don't want to actually help me, they just want me to do it. My sister did not come out here once to visit my dad the whole month and a half before he died and she lives an hour away. My brother hasn't really helped take care of things either. If my Dad was alive, I would have a reason to be here. But since he is gone, so is my reason for being here. There is definitely tension between me and my sibs, but taking care of my dad's estate is not a good enough of a reason to uproot my life...especially when i won't get any help. Let the court appoint someone else if my brother, who has never had a place of his own, doesn't want to do it.

I can go back and have the life we had before. It wasn't perfect. But we weren't lost, like we are now. Yep, I can't wait. Its a plan.

Heather

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Registered: 05-14-2003
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 7:42pm

Heather-

I thought of you today while I was at church. Today's sermon was about heroes....I thought of how you were your dad's hero in the months before he died. How hard it was for you to uproot your family for your dad's best interests. he may have never been able to tell you, I don't know if he was even aware of it but I know that had he been he would have told you as much.

Your husband must be a really great guy too;-)

Loca

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 7:48pm
It must have been so hard to come to a decision -- good for you for making one! (and I really think, the right one). Was one of the children appointed as executor of the estate -- if so, and it is you, you can appoint (hire) someone to take care of all of it -- the person that is hired gets a percentage of the value of the estate -- so it's not really arbitrary how much they get. Good luck with all of this, and be peaceful with the decision. It really sounds like it is best for your family. Hugs. Megan
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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 11:11am

Home is where the heart is.

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 10:16pm

Hugs!!!

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Registered: 05-10-2006
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 11:41am

Heather,

You sound happier in your decision than you were. Good for you. Sometimes we have to do things that hurt us financially to survive emotionally. Good luck with the move!!

Sarah