In serious need of a plan.

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Registered: 09-20-2004
In serious need of a plan.
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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 1:30pm

My dh and i had decided we would move back to WI at the end of August, and we just found out that our dd would be ineligible to ever participate in the autism waiver program there because she transitioned out of it when we moved, and once you are out, you are out. This totally blows for us, because it would have meant she would have received some services up until the age of 21. Still, she would have the most awesome teacher ever in charge of her education for the next couple of years, anyhow. I'm just not sure it is enough. so we are looking into other options yet again...we basically feel like we only have until school starts to make this all happen.
I wish i would just feel that there is a right decision to be made. I felt like we were done with all that until I got the bad news yesterday.
Now I am not so sure it is worth moving right away for....she would still get medicaid up there, luckily.
See, our original plan (before my dad got sick) was to spend a few more years paying down the bills and then move south. It doesn't make so much sense to keep moving every other year. Doesn't do much for the finances.
DH has a promising job situation here...i finally get to work dayshift. I still hate the school district and our living arrangements.
I'm starting to research southern states now...the company my dh is working for has lots of offices down south...nothing in WI. i wish something just stood out as the right thing to do. ARGH!

Changing topics....I went grocery shopping today. I had to pull out the charge card, but it will be paid off on Thursday. Grocery shopping isn't noteworthy to many people, I don't think, but for me it provides a sense of calm. i usually feel so rushed that it is fast food all the time. so yes, i actually get excited about grocery shopping. (Last Wednesday, I had a list and went to the grocery store only to find out the ad didn't break until Thurs...and it took me all this time to make it back to the store) I am trying. Maybe the sun will come out...
Heather

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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 1:52pm

Hey Heather - sorry to hear about the WI hiccup.

All my best,
Danni

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Wed, 06-14-2006 - 7:35am

Dear Heather,

Sending you hugs and positive energy! I hope you will find the right thing for your family and yourself very soon!

Littlesbigs

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Registered: 09-20-2004
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 9:28am

Thanks, Danni and Littlebigs.
I KNOW I sound like the most ridiculous adult on the planet with all of my recent indecisiveness. i get very emotional about stuff that affects my kids. I actually woke dh up at 4:30 this am to talk to him (we don't ever have time to just talk anymore...we worked full time opposite shifts in WI, but we have longer commutes now so it just takes up that much more time)
Anyhow, I told him how i was so unsure...esp with the job thing and his job here is decent. He said that he still thinks it is better for me and the kids if we just move back to WI. I can't believe how much i don't want to blow that money sitting in the bank right now on another 600 mile move, trying to live on one income while dh finds a job, etc. That money, maybe two years down the road, could be a downpayment on a house. Is that a ridiculous way of thinking? Will we ever get ahead, that is the question. Not jumping from place to place and job to job.
I need to just learn to be content with where I am at and not worry so much. HA!
Anyhow, whatever happens in the end, I still have my health, my kids, my honeybunny.

It will be ok. (no, really, it will.) :)
Heather