Job Dispute

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Job Dispute
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 12:44pm

Hi Everyone!


Just feeling bummed today b/c my dh and I are arguing about my new second job. For some background on me - I was hiding debt from my dh. He knew of about $12,000 in c/c debt but it had spiraled to about $28,000 total (not all my charging) but I had been managing the bills and I had lead him to believe that we weren't that badly off. Anyway, everything is out of the bag and we are working on paying down debt.


I work part time during the day and my days off are offset so I can take my ds to school and we don't pay for daycare. I found a job at night that is a few nights a week (one week I might work 4 nights and one week I might work one) but it starts at 9 p.m. and often gets out about 2 a.m. It's an inventory job at a stores.


My DH is SOOOOOOOOOOO against this job. I have no clue why. I've been working there a month already and have made over $100 - not crazy money but that's $100 more to our efund which we want to build up then we will work on tacking extra $$ to our c/c's.


I took this job as a way to show my DH that I am sorry about hiding this debt and to truly get out of debt for good. I havn't used c/cs in well over 6 months and I don't think (looking at this from the inside here) that I've whined or complained about this new job. I know I've been tired a few times but I think that's to be expected.


Anyway, I work again tonight and DH is already hemming and hawing about it. I told him to deal with it and I'd be home after my day work at 6 and I have to leave for my night job about 8.


Just looking for some support.


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Registered: 04-10-2003
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 1:25pm

You have my support!!!


I'm not really sure what else to say. I just wonder why DH is so against this job. Probably a stupid question, but have you sat down and asked him at a time when you were not already arguing about it?


I'm not much help in that regard. Being perpetually single I have gotten in the habit of telling other people where to go if they question what I am doing with my life (perhaps part of the reason I am still single, lol).


I think its great that you are doing whatever you can to get out of the situation and have taken responsibility! Keep it up and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel in no time!


Bex -


"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."



Bex -

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Registered: 04-12-2007
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 5:18pm

{{{HUGS}}} beeps.


I agree with Bex - you need to find out why he is so against this 2nd job when you've both cooled off some.

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Registered: 07-02-2008
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 5:36pm

Thanks guys - I think he's having "man of the family" issues. He's commented that HIS working overtime would be way more money than my working this job. While true I am not stopping him from working OT. His OT working has never interfered with my night job. While his working more does get us better money every penny helps and right now we don't put his OT into savings. We use it to pay down debt and for our daily expenses. So this extra that I'm making helps out a lot.


I also think he sometimes misses me at night. We usually sit on the couch after the kids go to bed and watch Wheel of Fortune or some game show that we've taped and chat and read our magazines together. While I do miss that the one or two nights I'm gone I also know this job is good for our financial future. I don't think its harmful to our marriage.


I just wish he was as excited about it as me. Makes it hard to leave for work when he's being a baby about it.

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Registered: 11-17-2007
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 2:00am

Maybe he just doesn't like sleeping alone


Simple as that


Mary Ann


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Registered: 12-12-2004
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 12:10pm
Hi, B---On the DH being "against" the job.
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Registered: 08-26-2008
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 1:32pm

Well I commend you for taking responsibilty for you r actions!!!!! GOOD JOB!!

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Registered: 08-26-2008
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 9:47am
GReat job!!! Now that you have the second job, are the intrest rates low on the