Wedding gift - what you give?

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Wedding gift - what you give?
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 5:00pm

Enlighten me on what you guys think. I am in a large city - Chicago. I live in the suburbs but weddings are expensive here. I don't give my "gift" based on the type of wedding someone is having but a standard $$ we give is $100. Usually this is for me and my DH. We don't bring our kids unless they are IN a wedding.


My DH said the wedding cost has gone up to $150 now and I told him NO WAY could we afford that. We have to start RSVP'ing no then to weddings. As it is we usually know when people are getting married and I add that expense into our budget but come on! We just went to a wedding this past Saturday and we have another in two weeks. I am going to bed bath & beyond and getting a gift for the other wedding. HOpefully something that is around $50 or so which is all I can afford.


I hate to seem "cheap" but what does everyone normally give? Just curious.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 5:09pm

well I don't think it matters if you're well off or not; you're not even supposed to put gift info on the invite at all, especially not that you just want cash! in my experience, it has (at least) been a word-of-mouth thing, never on the invite. But still- the nerve of some people!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 5:53pm
Completely agree w/you. Bride and her family could have said it within immediate family. But she had it printed on the invitations.
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Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 7:54pm

Beeps,


Interesting question. I understand the expectations of brides and grooms in this day and age are very different than were mine or my parents (I'm in my late 40s). I was married in 1985 in a modest wedding/reception (church/church basement).

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