Blowing Money

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Registered: 09-30-2008
Blowing Money
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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 11:37pm

I spend my free time earning extra money online. Eagerly await the check. Deposit it and immediately put it all on credit card payments.


Then DH blows money on bowling or football tickets and can spend all I make over the course of the month.


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Registered: 02-16-2004
In reply to: wells2008
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 8:54am

I'm sorry! I can hear the frustration and discouragment in your post. I have felt similarly in my marriage. I would advise you to try to get on the same page as dh if possible, though I'm guessing that bridge has already been an attempt for you to cross many, many times...


Just don't give up, okay? There has got to be a way for you to get ahead and out of debt whether or not dh jumps on board.


What happens when you gently and truthfully put your foot down regarding these things like football/bowling? What would happen if you were doing the same thing: spending money that isn't there on your hobbies/interests? What would your dh say?


Again, I am sorry and wish I had more to add. Hopefully others on this board can give you some helpful advice.


Take care,


A.


 


 



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Registered: 09-01-2008
In reply to: wells2008
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 10:53am
Try to work out a deal with hubby about "blow money". Allow each of you a certain amount each week/month. My hubby smokes so he blows a lot on cigarettes. My blow money is significantly less than his but I'm okay with it. I've learned to accept it. We are certainly not on the same page. However, I'm dealing with it. I pay the bills each month and know that the debt amount is becoming less and less each month. It really bothered me in the beginning but then I decided that I loved him enough to tolerate it. I really wish that we could REALLY get together on this budget but I'm not sure that's going to happen. He just doesn't seem too interested in it. I have always paid the bills, kept up with when bills were due, wrote the checks, etc. Sometimes I wonder what would happen if something happened to me.........
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Registered: 02-26-2008
In reply to: wells2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 11:54am
can you tell me more about cash crate??