Managing Sunday Reality

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Managing Sunday Reality
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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 4:03pm

Normally I try to be as upbeat as possible about bills, our debt and finances in general but today is tough.


I have a job that pays me well with fantastic benefits - great vacation, tuition reimbursement, job stability (at least as much as anyone can have in this environment) etc. The problem is in the last 4-6 months the work I do has changed drastically and I absolutely hate what I am doing now.


I know it would be extremely foolish of me to even think about looking outside of the organization, but I am sitting here dreading going into work tomorrow and feeling trapped by expenses and bills that limit me from looking elsewhere into a profession I would enjoy more.


I am a technology project manager - I have been a project manager in some way or another since 1995 with the exception of 2 years. I am so sick of managing other people's work, schedules, and deliverables. I really do just want a job where

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 4:38pm

Sometimes we have to force ourselves to remember why we chose the line of work we do in the first place. And then we have to be thankful for the positives. :-)

If I were you,

I would pack my lunch for tomorrow and put a little note in there to remind you that life is good! (Dear Smoochdog, Have a great day! At least it is halfway over with! Enjoy your lunch! Love, Smoochdog.)

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Seriously, I feel your pain. Some days I hate going to work, even though overall I love what I do. I make decent money and have no chance of losing my job any time soon. Just take it one day at a time and lean on us when you need support!


 

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Registered: 01-23-2007
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 4:42pm

Michelle:

We are kindred spirits in this regard. I also have a job with decent pay, guaranteed raises each year, great vacation time, and more sick days than I'll ever use. I'm in education.

I feel so lucky to have my job as I watch others being laid off or not getting the hours they had been. I feel guilty wanting to quit (and, like you, knowing that I really can't quit right now due to expenses) knowing that others would give anything to have my job. It just isn't inspiring to me anymore and I'm not sure what to do about that.

I have been feeling the same way today, and most Sundays, knowing that I won't get another break for a while and I have some big things going on over the next couple weeks. I've been doing a lot of other things at home to make my home into a safe-haven from the crap that goes on at work. That helps.

In the big scheme of things, I'm doing two things: I'm trying to find ways to make my work more interesting for me (I have tons of flexibility in my position) and also find ways to become financially independent. A good book that you may find interesting is Your Money or Your Life, which is now out in a new edition. I have an older edition and the only thing that's difficult with it is the dollars in people's stories are a bit off from today's reality.

I guess I needed to vent, too. I really don't have anyone I can talk to about this.

Dee






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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 5:57pm

Aravis and Dee,


Thank you both for the words of encouragement! Part of my problem is that I need to learn a better way to disengage from work at the end of the day. Even on the days that I manage to not check email at night I cannot get my mind to detach from the office politics and deadlines that loom.


This is not a healthy way for me to be and I know that. I am working on it!

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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 6:02pm
(((Hugs))). It's tough to feel like that and feel like you shouldn't feel that way all at once! LOL. I'm a stay at home mom, we homeschool, and I write. Other than the mom part, the landscape is ALWAYS changing. There's always another article, a new topic to research, a new title to work on. The school work always involves a new project, new book to read, new subject to study. Still...some days I just want to stay in bed. I have burnout and I don't even do the same thing twice, LOL. Obviously I'm of no help. Just figured I'd commiserate a little. =c)

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Sarah
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Registered: 07-15-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 6:55pm

Treat yourself to a good book to disengage from work or a hobby to do in the evening.

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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 7:14pm

Hey Smoochdog - just know you're not alone!


My job is (mostly) great, but my responsibilities have grown pretty substantially to include some incredibly mind-numbing clerical stuff that I do not want to do.

All my best,
Danni

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Registered: 08-24-2007
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 7:27pm

Smoochdog, I feel exactly the same way.

Kate


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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 7:46pm
I enjoy a good bath AND a good glass of wine (though to be honest I prefer a mild stoli orange and tonic!)...Brownies often help too!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 8:01pm
Oh that's funny - I'm drinking an Oranj with Mango Orange Hanson's Soda at the moment. :)

All my best,
Danni
cl-phocid, Debt Support Group



All my best,
Danni

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Registered: 06-25-2006
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 8:10pm

Ah more similarities than we thought! Well we aren't that far off from each other location wise - perhaps we will have to meet and share a cocktail someday!


Enjoy the Oranj!

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