DH just asked me about the finances

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DH just asked me about the finances
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Mon, 01-26-2009 - 3:23pm
And I found myself getting irritated. I want him to be involved in the finances, but instead of him saying "Let's sit down and look at where we are," or something like that, he just started asking me about random bills. "Is this paid, is that paid, when is this due, how much is that...?" I just sucked it up and answered his questions because he usually has no interest and I want to encourage his involvement. I think I should start making him sit down with me at least once each pay period.


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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 9:31am
Marie, it sounds like you guys have a pretty good system in place.
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Wed, 01-28-2009 - 11:54am

Your husband and mine must be brothers. He is really not interested in a budget or the bills really. I worked on this budget thing for two weeks the first of the year. I was having problems not with the amount of money I was spending so much but with the days the income came in.


So I put it down on paper and gave it to him hoping he would help me Well I went back three hours later and the piece of paper was in the same spot He never looked.


Finally I went and told him I was having problems and "would he please help me" He said "through the thing away we don't need it." and I did. He tried a couple of months ago to pay the bills messed them up totally


He says he wants to try again with me looking over his shoulder. I don't know


Best thing to do is write it down for them and let it go. I have came to that point. What ever he messes us I wouldn't care at point anyway.


Mary Ann


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Registered: 11-07-1999
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 12:05pm

I can relate. My husband is in the financial field and the last thing he wanted to do was go through the bills. I guess he figured if there was food on the table and the lights were still on, then everything was getting paid.


We found ourselves in big cc debt because he (we) kept charging stuff and our charges were usually more than I was paying on the balance

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 1:04pm

*lol* To be honest, I don't think Dh would look at our budget if you held a gun to his head.

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Registered: 08-04-2008
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 1:40pm

This is not to anyone in particular, but does it not seem




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Registered: 11-07-1999
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 2:45pm

Well I don't know if you mean that men should be the leaders of the household???????????????


My husband and I each have our "jobs"- his is bringing home the money and mine is managing it. There is no "leader". I have been a SAHM for 18 years now, and I'm the one who oversees all the day to day business of the household.


Immature? No, it's called each of us doing what we do best. He trusts me to run the household, I trust him to bring home a paycheck.


What is it that you don't understand?

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Registered: 10-01-2008
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 2:56pm

Funny thing, when I was growing up in the sixties, Dad paid all the bills.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Registered: 11-07-1999
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 3:19pm

Don't think it's "man vs woman" issue, more likely your personality.


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