Donate to Octuplet Mom?

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Registered: 08-04-2008
Donate to Octuplet Mom?
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Thu, 02-12-2009 - 1:08pm

A Web site featuring Nadya Suleman's new octuplets is collecting donations for the 33-year-old mother and her 14 children. The single and unemployed mom's situation has sparked widespread controversy.


Your thoughts?




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Registered: 12-29-2008
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 3:33pm

I say BRING ON THE BACKLASH!


I think it is refreshing that excess is becoming passe, and I agree that the public outrage of the Suleman disaster is in sync with this new American psyche.


"Live simply, that others may simply live" isn't just a '60's concept.

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Registered: 03-17-2003
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 4:03pm
Amen!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 5:15pm

Abbie,

I understand your point about the babies not deserving to be punished for their mother's actions. I really feel for them, but from what I've heard about their mother, I have no reason to believe any money I donated would actually go to the babies.

As a fertility patient, I know how IVF process works and there was NO WAY the doctor should have agreed to put all those embryos into her uterus. In most cases, the guidelines say that they shouldn't transfer more than 2 or 3 embryos. IMO, it was irresponsible for Suleman to request that and it was even more irresponsible for the doctor to actually do it. There are options if you have more embryos than you can use in one cycle. You can freeze them to use later or you can donate them to another couple. When I got PG with my DD we had six embryos. There was no way I would have asked my doctor to transfer all of them. We transferred 3 and even that made me nervous. I can't imagine transferring more than one or two if I already had 6 kids. Of course, if I had 6 kids and it took IVF to have all of them I would have quit a lot sooner, but that's just me.

I'm starting to think she has some kind of psychological disorder (maybe something like munchausen's syndrome) that causes her to seek the medical attention you get when you're undergoing IVF. I can tell you that after you get PG if you've undergone IVF, suddenly the almost-daily trips to the doctor stop and you get super-nervous between appointments. I'm sure having multiples eliminates that problem.

FWIW, I can't watch Jon & Kate, either, because IMO, there is no way she should have conceived sextuplets if someone wasn't acting irresponsibly.


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Registered: 12-29-2008
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 7:06pm

Hi Abbie,


I don't believe anyone condemns the existence of the eight newborns...only the circumstances of their gestation.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 7:41pm

i saw yesterday on either cnn.com or abcnews.com that she is on food stamps too. That and I have read the articles (on either of those same sites) that her own mother is denouncing her (as selfish and irresponsible because the grandmother is raising the first six kids) and that mother of the 14 kids has received $167,000 in worker's compensation benefits over the last few years.

I think she should be put through a psychiatric review. I think she is totally immoral and I would never donate to her.

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 7:42pm
I totally get all the implications of this tragedy. A mentally handicapped mother and a reckless doctor made a horribly stupid decision together and no one is happy about it. All I'm saying is that the babies are here and they deserve care. They need care. So when no one wants to donate to this needy family, it means that 14 kids are being punished for the stupidity of their mother. I don't think she should get rich off this or anything, but what should we do? Should we take away all her children? They probably won't get the greatest care in the foster system either. I have no idea how she is going to raise 14 kids, but I know for sure that she can't do it without help. So no matter what she did, or how stupid she is, she needs help.

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 8:02pm

The children WILL be cared for, Abbie.

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 8:06pm

No, she does not need our help, the poor babies need our help. The best way to help the children is to get them out of the care of a mother who is not only crazy, but clearly does not have the resources to take care of *14* children under the age of 6. They should be adopted by some of the loving families that are longing for children, and thus get the love and attention they deserve rather than being little cash machines for their psycho mother. There is no way the taxpayers should have to pay to keep this kids in such a dysfunctional home.

This situation is not the same as one in which the mother had 14 children naturally. In that case, many of the children are older, and need a different kind of care, as well as being able to help with the young ones.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 11:08pm

I won't be giving her a single penny of my money. No way.


I'm very much disgusted by not only this woman's actions but those of her doctor(s). Shame on all of them. She already has 6 children, lives with her parents (mother?) in a 3 bedroom home where they are cramped and the house looked to be a total wreck, and she is unemployed. Many have condemned her for not being married either - I won't do that as I think children can be raised in a single parent home and turn out to be wonderful people.


Her mother is currently caring for her first 6 children -- a couple of which have some disabilities.


This woman is irresponsible. Plain and simple.


I keep thinking about what my kids told me about the Duggar family -- they spend $2500 a MONTH on groceries! There is no way this woman can afford these children. And I'm sorry,

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 12:52am

The entire story infurtiates and saddens me.