Donate to Octuplet Mom?

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Donate to Octuplet Mom?
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Thu, 02-12-2009 - 1:08pm

A Web site featuring Nadya Suleman's new octuplets is collecting donations for the 33-year-old mother and her 14 children. The single and unemployed mom's situation has sparked widespread controversy.


Your thoughts?




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Registered: 09-20-2004
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 6:40am

I feel terrible for the kids, especially the six older ones.

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Registered: 08-04-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 9:42am

Abbie -


I do agree, and I think most here do, that the childen did not ask to be born into this media circus and all should be done for their welfare.


But if




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Registered: 03-07-2005
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:05am

She deliberately brought this attention to herself, and she is going to be under great scrutiny as to how she spends any funds she might receive.


I think she has some disorder that causes her to seek such attention--they showed a clip of her in her doctor's office when she was pregnant before talking about how the treatments had worked well for her that had aired on her local news. I think all those shows on tv with big families, Jon and Kate, the Duggars, and there's another have romanticized the notion of large families. I don't think this octuplet mom has a baby loving disorder but a personality disorder where she marvels at the attention from being pregnant. You're the center of attention when you are pregnant. It's sad.

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Registered: 03-07-2005
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:10am

She hired a publicist??

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Registered: 08-04-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:20am

Jax-


Ms Sulman




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Registered: 07-05-2006
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:22am

But don't you think that adoption would be just as traumatic, especially for the older children? Their primary caregiver (grandma) already abandoned them by saying she can no longer be in the situation. I feel awful for these children, and it's not like I condone the mothers actions, but not supporting the mother isn't going to solve any of these problems. 14 brothers and sisters would have to be separated somehow. Who could adopt all 14?

Did anyone see the Dr. Phil show recently on this subject? He actually came out on my side saying that by railroading the mother, we are only hurting the innocent children and that what we should all be clamoring for is some mental evaluation and help for this mother. She obviously needs psychological help and now she's going to need physical and financial help to support these kids. How is she going to get that if the whole country is against her? Maybe she really does have a sickness that is treatable? Maybe she has the capability of being a great mom if only she gets the help she needs. AND there is no guarantee that adoption would be any better. The kids would most likely be separated and how long would they be in the foster care system? Maybe if they could find a family to adopt all 14 who actually is a loving, caring household...but then that family would most likely need financial help from the state as well and isn't that what we're all upset about? That she expects us as the taxpayers to fund the bill for her idiocy. Here's a question I have. Yes, this mother is insane, she has made bad choices, but can we say that she doesn't love her children? I know that I don't often feel like the best mom. My kids don't get all the opportunities I wish they could have because of our finances, but I do know that I love them the best. I don't know if anyone could love them as much as I do. I carried them, I birthed them, I fed them, I held them...I have an eternal bond with my children that can never be broken. Who's to say that she doesn't feel the same way? No one can determine that, especially not through media coverage alone! So let's rip these kids away from their mother? Then everyone would suffer. Let's give her the tools and the resources and the mental help-drugs, counseling, whatever she needs to be capable of finishing the job of raising these kids. These kids need to be raised into functioning adults, that's the only solution.

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:40am

And that is my biggest concern is for the welfare of these children.

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Registered: 08-04-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:47am

I don't know if I am the best person to answer that question as I only have one biological child.




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Registered: 03-30-2005
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:48am

I work at the university Nadya attends. The funny thing about her wanting to put the kids into the college daycare is that 1) they arent old enough to go until September, so what is her plan until then? and 2) the baby room there only holds 12 kids at a time. They cant take Octuplets. No way.

And sadly, the university's daycare is subsidized by student fees. Not the state or federal government. It will be her fellow students that would foot the bill for that.

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:59am

""And now she has added another person to her list of donors - the college that will provide day care, at a much reduced cost, if any cost,