forgive me, i need to rant
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forgive me, i need to rant
| Wed, 02-25-2009 - 10:05am |
My husband and I have been together for 8 years. Both having good jobs we decided to make a family. We had one boy and then five years later, looking at our finances closely, decided to have another child. After having him, my husband and I lost our jobs and have been looking for work desperately ever since. We went to the state to try and get assistance and they actually tried to encourage me to lie about my status, saying that if I

How horrible.
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
What backwards logic! What if we, as a country, decided to only help those who were responsible...those who were married or in a long-term committed relationship. Who don't use drugs and are out there looking for jobs. If that were the case, then people would be trying to put themselves into that category in order to get help. Maybe then there would be more two parent households, even if it's just a lie, it would still benefit the next generation.
Your post got me thinking when you said they asked you to lie and say you were single or separated so you could get more help. What if it were the opposite and they were asking single moms to lie and say they were in a committed relationship and getting married, actively seeking a job etc. Maybe then our culture would completely change. Maybe then, instead of people trying to go lower and lower in order to get government assistance, they would try to better themselves in order to get the assistance.
What a world we live in! How can we encourage people to better themselves when the worse off you are, the more assistance you get...with hardly any consequences! Why aren't there stricter rules for receiving government assistance? You have to be searching for a job and prove it! You have to be trying to better yourself with school or job training. You have to get your kids to school, you have to be off drugs in order to get tax-payer money?!?
I know this will never happen...
I completely understand your frustration!