If you HAD to live with family could you

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If you HAD to live with family could you
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 8:26am
If your debt forced you to live with a family member (parents, sibling, etc.) could you?

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 8:56am

My Mother would have but Raymond parents wouldn't have. But Mom is gone so no we really have no one.


Mary Ann


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Registered: 07-05-2006
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:10am
Yes, we have lived with DH's parents before and my parents as well, although my parents have divorced and downsized since then. If we had to, we could move back into the basement, but I would avoid that at all costs. It really takes a toll on your marriage and your family to not have a sense of your own space.

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Registered: 03-17-2003
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:27am
No.
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Registered: 07-02-2008
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:57am

If my family was going to be homeless without my taking them in then of course, no question about it. I'd let my whole family live with me and we'd make it work.


I am hoping my family would do the same with me and for my family if the tables were turned.


However, I could never, ever live with my MIL. She is the most negative, critical person ever. I can't live with someone like that. My dad was that kind of person and I have ceased communication with him because of that. I find it hard to be around someone who constantly puts you down and is SO negative. I wouldn't want my kids in that environment either.


FIL and BIL - no problem. Could live w/them.

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:07am

The only family member we could do this with/for would be DD and DGS if push came to shove, but it would be difficult for all of us.

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Registered: 09-22-2006
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:29am

If I

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:59am

I could live with my DH's family no problem - his parents or his sister. I could live my brother as well.

I could not ever live with my mom again. She actually wants to live with us - not because she needs to, but because she's cheap and too lazy to want to pay bills herself. She would do nothing around our house to help, would expect us to invite her along to everything my DH & I did with our kids, and is critical of me and very negative to boot. HECK NO. LOL

Bridget




Bridget
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Registered: 08-04-2008
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:00pm

My parents actually proposed this a couple years ago, and have always been there to help us.




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Registered: 08-02-1998
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 4:32pm
If it was an absolute necessity, then we could. It would have to be my FIL & MIL they are the only ones that have any extra space. But as all my family members own pets of some sort it wouldn't really be a good option as I have pet allergies. We have had SIL, Bil and little ones stay with us for a couple weeks, it was fine we didn't get one each others nerves but with one bathroom it does get a tad crowded. I would prefer to move in with my parents but they live too far away for it to be feasible.


Sharon




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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 6:02pm
It would be the last option before homelessness, but yes, we could make it work. We lived with my ILs for 3 months once and my parents for 3 weeks. IMO, the 3 weeks with my parents seemed like a lot longer than the 3 months with my ILs, but neither situation was ideal.

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