need advice with son and husband.

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need advice with son and husband.
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 8:42am

Most of you guys on the board are a lot younger then I am. So I have a question for all of you all.


If you were the only child and you had a parent that could not handle their money in the correct fashine. How would you go about helping them to

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 10:33am

Off topic:


Teresa I just noticed your ticker . . .


CONGRATULATIONS!!! YOU DID IT!!!


You must be so relieved (sp??)!!!!


Yay for you!


Bex -


"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."


Bex -

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 10:41am
Hi Mary Ann.
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 10:47am

We would do whatever we could to help either FIL/MIL or my parents.

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 12:38pm

Good question.

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 3:50pm

I wrote the posting before coffee this morning. I never put things in clear black and white as I should have.


Here is what is going on in our family. I am sick some of you know that some don't. I have tried Lord knows I have tried to get Raymond to do the money thing. But every time he does any of it he messes it up so badly that it takes me a couple of hours to just figure out what and how he did it so I can fix it. And because of all the meds he takes he is doing silly things.


My son is single at this point but finally has a lady. Who could move with him if she wanted to.

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 4:07pm

Mary Ann, I respect you opinion and all the wonderful advice and wisdom you have given, but I am going to have to side with Raymond on this one.


Your son needs to go where there is a future for him. If he chooses to move to Dallas its his choice. If he gets laid off, he needs to go where he has the best chance of securing his future.


Bex -

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 5:49pm

Mary Ann I can't agree with you on this one. Asking your son to look for jobs and a home in your area isn't something I feel is your "right" to ask him. He is an adult and if he unfortunately loses his job it is in his free decisions to move where he feels it is best for HIM.


I have no doubt if anything (God forbid) ever happened to you or Raymond that your son would be there to help out his other parent in their time of need. Don't question that. Just because your son won't live next door or the next town over doesn't mean he can't help.


Asking him to move by you is a huge thing to ask someone. If Kentucky doesn't hold the kind of work he is looking for and he isn't happy there you can risk him resenting you for it.


Hugs.

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 7:28pm
I really don't think I would. I figure they are adults, just like I am and they pretty much need to figure it out themselves. I wouldn't expect my parents to help me get out of the situation I am in and I know they wouldn't help because I got myself into this mess.
We don't really talk about money in my family. No one knows how much my husband and I make in a year, they don't know what we have in savings, or what we have as far as bills go.
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 8:23pm

I am up there in age too, but only family left is older sister.

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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 8:59pm

I would go in a heartbeat.