I'm not going to give you the "grass isnt' always greener" speech but look around and be thankful you have beautiful daughters and a good husband.
Just because you don't have extra money to throw around at a carnival doesn't mean that's the end of the world. You are teaching your daughters to be responsible about money. Saying No to the carnival meant saying Yes to your whole family budget. That's important and you should be proud of yourself.
We are always invited to "free" carnivals in the summer and I often balk at going w/my kids because they see the rides and the ice cream and a free outdoor carnival turns out to be far from free. You were right to be stern about turning down the invite.
I feel your pain. I know we all have days like this when we are trying to get out of debt and build better lives. My husband would feel bad too if I told him half of how I feel, that is why I come on here to talk or vent when I feel the way you do. You have done the right thing in reaching out to others that know exactly what you are going through.
I know how it feels not to have money for things, but I am learning about what is really important in life and what do I really value. I have been living with the "less is more" mentality and quite frankly I like it.
You spent time with your family and you work hard with your husband to provide the best that you can right now. I know that in the future you will be able to go to that carnival and many more and enjoy yourself with or without a lot of money.
In the mean time be good to yourself, because you deserve it!
I really do know how you feel. My sister stays at home and I know for a fact her and her dh have their beautiful house and vehicles paid off. I was jealous at first but I need to be happy for her she does not have the stress in her life that I do. I just hope her and her husband never split up. She might not have the financial skills to go it alone. She really is clueless. But then again, if she did divorce she would come out a lot better than I did in mine. So I just try to be happy for her.........and I let her pick up the lunch bill LOL!
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Maybe they don't have as much money as you think they do. Maybe they got more payments to make then you do. I would not worry about it.
By now the kids have already forgotten about the whole thing and went on to something else
Hugs to you Ally.
I'm not going to give you the "grass isnt' always greener" speech but look around and be thankful you have beautiful daughters and a good husband.
Just because you don't have extra money to throw around at a carnival doesn't mean that's the end of the world. You are teaching your daughters to be responsible about money. Saying No to the carnival meant saying Yes to your whole family budget. That's important and you should be proud of yourself.
We are always invited to "free" carnivals in the summer and I often balk at going w/my kids because they see the rides and the ice cream and a free outdoor carnival turns out to be far from free. You were right to be stern about turning down the invite.
Have a GREAT weekend.
Sometimes you just need to feel sorry for yourself.
{{{{{Ally}}}}}}
I feel your pain. I know we all have days like this when we are trying to get out of debt and build better lives. My husband would feel bad too if I told him half of how I feel, that is why I come on here to talk or vent when I feel the way you do. You have done the right thing in reaching out to others that know exactly what you are going through.
I know how it feels not to have money for things, but I am learning about what is really important in life and what do I really value. I have been living with the "less is more" mentality and quite frankly I like it.
You spent time with your family and you work hard with your husband to provide the best that you can right now. I know that in the future you will be able to go to that carnival and many more and enjoy yourself with or without a lot of money.
In the mean time be good to yourself, because you deserve it!
~~Maggie~~
Boy, am I right there with you this week!
Thanks for all the nice responses, I am feeling much better today.
(((((((((((Ally))))))))))))) Truth be told, you may not really know their circumstances.
I'm a bit late to the party, but, big hugs girl!
Teresa
http://www.affordingpickles.blogspot.com
It is ok to vent!
I really do know how you feel. My sister stays at home and I know for a fact her and her dh have their beautiful house and vehicles paid off. I was jealous at first but I need to be happy for her she does not have the stress in her life that I do. I just hope her and her husband never split up. She might not have the financial skills to go it alone. She really is clueless. But then again, if she did divorce she would come out a lot better than I did in mine. So I just try to be happy for her.........and I let her pick up the lunch bill LOL!
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