Payday splurge

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Payday splurge
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Thu, 04-02-2009 - 2:44pm

I need to find a way to wrangle in my DH's payday splurges. He is good about holding out on buying stuff when he knows we are low in our checking. I love this about him.


BUT, then when we DO get paid (like today) he will go out and buy happy meals for the kids, hit the kmart that is closing and buy crap we don't need.....(these are just the things he did TODAY that I'm annoyed with.)


I doubt he spent a lot but $30 adds up here and there.


He is a good provider and I have tried being nice about it and saying, "why don't you wait until I pay bills tonight so we can see where we are financially...." but he will just naturally go out and buy this, that and the other.


Sorry, just frustrated. I sometimes blink and he's spent $50 before I know it and have paid bills. GRRRRR.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 2:54pm

It is hard, DH does the same type of stuff.

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Registered: 11-14-2008
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 3:01pm

I hear ya Beeps! My bf does this sometimes too. I think there is a blown up sense of entitlement that some people feel. I worked hard all the two weeks now I get to spend. They don't realize that they have over spent in the past and now they can't have any fun stuff or are living above their means. I don't mean to point fingers at your dh or anything I am just talking about my bf and I'm sure this happens to others. For instance, yes you worked hard at your job all month, but now you have to pay for the education(student loan) that allows you to have that job. It can be very frustrating and I feel your pain. And sometimes if they just looked at every thing going out(bills) they would be less carefree, but they choose not to and live oblivious, leaving us to pull money from somewhere else(like grocery money) and invent meals out of a bare pantry so they can buy happy meals or a movie or whatever strikes their fancy at the time.

Sorry, this just happened to me and I am frustrated.



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Registered: 08-04-2008
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 3:23pm

It sounds like he needs a bit of blow money in the budget for himself.




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Registered: 02-13-2009
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 6:20pm

Boy do I hear you and truly feel you pain. Hubby has a spending allowance for his personal use which really is a good amount and also an amount of money that I put in his own checking account for his "so called business." It has been going ok but today he said "hey where did you get the money to pay the state taxes with, you always find a way to get money." Well, I have to budget everything for it all to work. I had to remind him that the money he gets is ALL he will get for his splurges and NOT to come back for more like a bratty kid who insists that you buy him that candy bar at the checkout. I love to hear Dave Ramsey say "grow up!" I love my husband but he can be worse than my son. I hope you two can figure out a plan that would leave you feeling ok about his using money. I can say that I am the NERD and hubby is the FREE SPIRIT!

Hang in there!

~~Maggie~~

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Registered: 03-28-2008
In reply to: beepsmomx2
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 11:39pm

Have you tried the night *before* he gets paid sitting down with him and outlining all the bills which are due and you need to pay out of the paycheck he will get in the a/m ?


I budget out (or did until the recent cut in Dh's hours and pay) months in advance for the bills which will be coming due for each pay period.