Need help-wedding gift

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Need help-wedding gift
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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 8:38pm

DH and I were invited to a wedding for one of his co-workers.

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Fri, 04-17-2009 - 9:51pm

I don't know what the now a days people do but in my day we used to make a kitchen basket for the new wife We would get a basket or a bucket and fill it full of all the things no one ever gives you because it doesn't look so good on the gift table. Like a bottle opener, a potatoes peeler and an egg separator you know what is your kitchen junk drawer.


As a young bride I remember moving into our first apartment. It was my cousin who did that for me and it was such a welcome present.


Now we had all the towels and sheets we needed but few people think to give someone a potato peeler.


That way you can spend as much as you can afford and since most things are a just a few dollars or so it looks like a bigger gift then it really cost. Pitch in some tea towels too.


Mary Ann


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Registered: 08-24-2007
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 8:37am

Hi Hilari :


From the sounds of the post, you seem to want to go in the direction of a monetary gift, so I'll keep the post to money.

Kate


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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 1:04pm
I think I would probably buy a nice card and either put $100 cash in it OR find out where they are registered and buy them a nice gift card to that particular store.
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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 3:59pm

Boy am I out of touch!

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Registered: 03-17-2003
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 5:55pm
$100 cash as your wedding gift would be fine.
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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 9:53pm

Ok.., I may be looked at as a cheapskate,

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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 10:59pm

It doesn't change anything as far as I'm concerned.

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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 11:26pm

Wow.


I think $50 is acceptable for a co-worker type situation especially when they've been married. I'm guessing he's probably been gone roughly a year with the deployment and she's probably basically built their household up. I didn't say "Load 'em up with a George Foreman Grill".. I simply stated that I thought $50 was sufficent.


I gave my sister $100 when they got married and I know that a lot of people say $100 is pretty standard. However, I wouldn't allow someone to make me feel cheap for only giving someone $50. It's the thought that counts and I'm betting they won't sit back and go "Wow. What a cheapskate" they'll just be grateful they cared enough to give them anything. There are a lot of people who wouldn't since they can't (aren't going to) attend the wedding.

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Sun, 04-19-2009 - 1:54pm

I usually only give $25, but we just don't have a ton of money. There probably isn't a STANDARD - it is what you can feasibly afford and what feels right to you!


 

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Registered: 01-25-2009
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 4:02pm

I understand the amount one gives depends on one's financial circumstances. Some people feel comfortable with $25, others with $100 or more. You cannot give what you don't have.

What I don't understand is you keep saying "especially when they've been married". Your first posting suggested $100; the second posting $50 when the original poster said they were married earlier. What does the amount one gives have to do with whether they got married last year or an hour ago? Especially the reason they could not have a celebration right away was due to the fact that one partner got deployed to Iraq.

Edited 4/19/2009 4:06 pm ET by marie_1229




Edited 4/19/2009 5:15 pm ET by marie_1229

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