Need help-wedding gift

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Need help-wedding gift
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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 8:38pm

DH and I were invited to a wedding for one of his co-workers.

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Registered: 03-15-2005
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 4:06pm

Maybe it's a part of the country you're in thing....


Here's $50 is a pretty nice gift for

Jennifer


 


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Registered: 08-04-2008
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 8:04pm
If it was me I would look at the registry first to see if there is anything they wanted still there.



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Registered: 05-09-2002
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 8:38pm

In the past, I have given 50 dollars to people that I wasn't particuarly close with (friends of friends, coworkers, etc.) and 75 dollars to family and close friends.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 9:35pm

Because if someone is already married they likely already purchased many of the things they need for a home. There IS a difference if someone is already married/living together and haven't lived together. I know dh and I lived together before we were married, so we didn't need a whole lot of house things once we were married. My sister, on the other hand, lived at home with my parents until she was married -- so she needed more home items because she and her now dh had never been out on their own.


I didn't know that they had already gotten married (and have likely been married a year if he's been deployed). This seems to be more of a celebration of the marriage they already have vs a brand new wedding.

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Registered: 01-25-2009
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 9:50pm

There are two separate issues here: one is what is an appropriate wedding gift, the other is what they already have/what they need.

The consensus appears to be cash is best, because everyone can use it. Unless you are really close to the couple and know their taste, nick-knacks can easily ended by in the garage or at a garage sale.

I still maintain that gifts should not be "need-based". Using your logic, I should give a $5 wedding gift to my friends who are very well off (because they already have everything), and $5,000 wedding gift to the welfare couple living down the street (because they don't have anything)?

Personally I would give more because this is not only a belated celebration of their marriage, but also a homecoming for someone who served our country.

Edited 4/19/2009 9:53 pm ET by marie_1229

Edited 4/19/2009 9:54 pm ET by marie_1229




Edited 4/19/2009 9:58 pm ET by marie_1229
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Registered: 08-24-2007
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 7:18am

Wow, Hilari, looks like you're getting lots of advice!


Just adding my 2 cents again ... I don't think it's pertinent that they were married a year ago.

Kate


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Registered: 02-07-2006
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 11:49am

Thanks so much for the advise.

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Registered: 10-01-2008
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 12:40pm
We live in a lower income region, so $50 is what I would suggest.

Norma


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Registered: 08-04-2008
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 1:42pm

That sounds more than reasonable.




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