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Need help-wedding gift
| Fri, 04-17-2009 - 8:38pm |
DH and I were invited to a wedding for one of his co-workers.
| Fri, 04-17-2009 - 8:38pm |
DH and I were invited to a wedding for one of his co-workers.
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Maybe it's a part of the country you're in thing....
Here's $50 is a pretty nice gift for
Jennifer
In the past, I have given 50 dollars to people that I wasn't particuarly close with (friends of friends, coworkers, etc.) and 75 dollars to family and close friends.
Because if someone is already married they likely already purchased many of the things they need for a home. There IS a difference if someone is already married/living together and haven't lived together. I know dh and I lived together before we were married, so we didn't need a whole lot of house things once we were married. My sister, on the other hand, lived at home with my parents until she was married -- so she needed more home items because she and her now dh had never been out on their own.
I didn't know that they had already gotten married (and have likely been married a year if he's been deployed). This seems to be more of a celebration of the marriage they already have vs a brand new wedding.
There are two separate issues here: one is what is an appropriate wedding gift, the other is what they already have/what they need.
The consensus appears to be cash is best, because everyone can use it. Unless you are really close to the couple and know their taste, nick-knacks can easily ended by in the garage or at a garage sale.
I still maintain that gifts should not be "need-based". Using your logic, I should give a $5 wedding gift to my friends who are very well off (because they already have everything), and $5,000 wedding gift to the welfare couple living down the street (because they don't have anything)?
Personally I would give more because this is not only a belated celebration of their marriage, but also a homecoming for someone who served our country.
Edited 4/19/2009 9:53 pm ET by marie_1229
Edited 4/19/2009 9:54 pm ET by marie_1229
Edited 4/19/2009 9:58 pm ET by marie_1229
Wow, Hilari, looks like you're getting lots of advice!
Just adding my 2 cents again ... I don't think it's pertinent that they were married a year ago.
Kate
Thanks so much for the advise.
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
That sounds more than reasonable.
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