DH in denial...Help!
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DH in denial...Help!
| Tue, 04-21-2009 - 7:12am |
My DH is in his third week of a strike - it is going to be a very long time before they go back, IF they go back at all.
| Tue, 04-21-2009 - 7:12am |
My DH is in his third week of a strike - it is going to be a very long time before they go back, IF they go back at all.
Have you sat down with DH and had a good, frank discussion with him about what you are going through? Does he fully understand that at this point, your health is being impacted negatively? Perhaps he doesn't really understand what this is doing to you.
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Bex -
You have my support as long as I don't have to hold you up. Joke there. Being on strike is hard because one you can't collect unemployment. Don't know about food stamps.
Is he getting anything from the unions strike fund. I remember when my daddy was out on strike like 50 odd years ago they had a strike fund. 20.00 a week and the union had this food bank too. To get the money you did have to walk the line at least 8 hours or more a week.
I hope he has checked into that. I think my daddy had to sign up for it.
But there was nothing about the men taking on odd jobs while they were on strike.
I know my husband have this thing this knowledge comes from being married 40 years that they have to see things in black and white. So I would just write it all down and sit it in front of him at the computer and make him look at it. Maybe it will hit the right cord of his brain and he will wake up to what is going on.
I want to say this too. Around 30 years ago there was a problem with my husband and his job. Long story but he got himself into some trouble at work. I am not saying that he was totally not to blame because he was just by being with another man . Anyway
You've always heard that saying, "Men are Pigs", no they are not pigs, there OSTRICH.
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
I am sorry you have to deal with this. Tell him to go grocery shopping and get four days worth of food for $20 because that is all the money you have left for it. Could work? You never know? You need to take some time for yourself and let the numbers float away. I like to watch serious movies where the characters have worse problems than I do. Sometimes you get a good cry out of it but it at least a break from your own problems. A bubble bath works for me too. Just some thoughts. Good luck and I hope things improve soon.
Men are easy, as long as you know their hot buttons and you definately said one
I agree with the others, spell out your income and expenses to him in black and white and tell him it's time to take a good look at it.
I have to agree with most of what you have said.
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
I agree!
Would it help to sit down and make a list of things that need to be done around the house, (everything not just the ones you think he should do, and then ask him which of those he will do).
I think it is true to that many people and not just men equate their value as a person with their job. So when they are not doing it, they feel like they don't matter!