not a good day

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Registered: 06-25-2006
not a good day
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Mon, 07-20-2009 - 11:18pm

Frankly ladies today I want to fold over and raise my white flag. I know giving up is not an option but I just don't see a light at the end of the tunnel to our debt. How are we supposed to pay off $20K in debt when we have every penny accounted for with each paycheck?

I have nothing left to sell on Ebay. Unless I change my mind again and not go to school (part-time) and instead just get a 2nd job I have no room to earn money beyond my regular paycheck.

Honestly I feel like I just - can't- breathe. I don't want to give up and sell our home (beside my DH says we are no where near needing to do that) but I hate this. The debt makes me feel like a failure and not being able to make any kind of decent dent in it is sucking the life out of me.

I don't wan to be a complainer - my whole life I have made solutions to thinks, managed projects, and got things done.

This time I feel had - done in and like I am just immobilized. Is this what my life is going to be?

Aw crud now I sound like "poor me".

:-( Sorry

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Registered: 10-01-2008
In reply to: smoochdog
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 1:51pm

I think some days we feel like we have the weight of the world on our shoulders.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Registered: 06-25-2006
In reply to: smoochdog
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 1:55pm

Thank you, thank you. For for offering kind words but even more for just understanding.

May Ann - you can ALWAYS talk to me like a dutch aunt! LOL. I have never heard that phrase before but if your words were the words of a "dutch aunt" keep them coming!

Dee - We are *always* making the minimum payments on time and most months we are paying more than the minimum even if it is only $5.00 more! Psychologically paying more makes me feel like I am in control and not the stupid cc companies!

Sullen Gurl - I too threw worry to the side and said I would "worry about the debt later" with my first master's degree - that is why I have so much concern that I don't rack up any more debt for schooling!

Danni - DH IS good for me - in so many ways he is the ying to my yang. I am all type A and he is all type B!

Thanks again EVERYONE!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: smoochdog
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 2:21pm
LOL - ying to your yang? So basically he's perfect except for the times you want to throttle him? I think I have one of those too. :)

All my best,
Danni
cl-phocid, Debt Support Group



All my best,
Danni

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Registered: 06-25-2006
In reply to: smoochdog
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 7:08pm

Yes exactly Dani! We are two peas in a pod yet opposites who attract!

The good thing is every day we love each other and he always keeps me sane - well at least the days when we are not making each other IN-sane!

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Registered: 07-10-2003
In reply to: smoochdog
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 3:09am

I have days like this too!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2008
In reply to: smoochdog
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 11:06am

I think Norma made a very good point.

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