OT - So incredibly frustrated w/ family
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| Thu, 08-06-2009 - 12:22pm |
Vent warning!
This is so off topic but its eating me and no one in real life "gets it".
History: I am 27 (28 in one week ... yikes) and I own my home. I have been in it two years. I rent out one room to my sister (almost 23) and the other to various roommates. BF moved in May 1 and since then the other room is now a guest room/ my office.
The problem is living with my sister. She broke up with her #$% of a BF at the beginning of the summer and started working at a new bar. She goes out a lot and her friends come to our house and spend the night. She'll sometimes bring guys she is seeing home. While I am not loving the idea, its not out of this world for a 23 year old to do. She has been relatively quiet. We have asked her not to go into the basement because that is BF's area where all his equipment, tv's etc are and its his space. She still does it once in a while.
My sis suffers from mental health issues and has depression problems, especially around the winter time. She is in her first year of nursing after 3 tries at 3 other schools (she would do a year and then drop out when the depression got really bad). Last year she did great in prenursing, finished, made the deans list and got an entrance scholarship.
My problem is that I am getting to the point in my life that I am not loving having a roomate, even if its my sister. I know BF likes her but doesn't like living with her. We are both beyond the "go out and party" phase and I would like to get more settled and feel like an "adult".
I have mentioned this to my

All I can say is pray she falls in love with someone and wants to move in with him!
That way your parents cannot blame you on her moving out. LOL!
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
Bex,
That's a really tough spot to be in...I feel for you!
Let me ask you something, if I may.
Why don't you ask your boyfriend one night to go out with his
This is not a good situation. However there are some things to keep in mind.
She will probably not want to live with you forever. I don't know if she is a mature 23 year old or not, but living with your older sister gets old LOL(no offence)
I agree with PPs. Keep the bf out of this situation and have a little girl talk. Ask her what her goals are and if there is some where else she would like to live,(perhaps with a good friend of hers recommendation to share rent with). No need to foster resentment as they like each other(bf and sister)
Does she work? Does she have student loans? Is it possibly time to get on the right meds for depression or at least explore this in more detail?
If you parents are horrified--then she can go live with them!