Watch what you do (long vent)

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Watch what you do (long vent)
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 1:45pm

Well God is paying me back for opening up my big fat mouth.

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 2:06pm

Hi Mary Ann,


I responded in the other post, but I thought I would respond here too.


I wouldn't look at it as being scared of you or Raymond. I look at it more like the two of you are so important that she doesn't want to risk screwing it up, lol. She probably is nervous as you-know-what that you won't like her and needs her finace there for moral support!


I consider myself a VERY independant person. Twice I have moved across the country and not known a single person in the city I was moving too. At 15 I lived with a family I had never met in Italy for 6 months on an exchange program. Yet I still would NEVER go on my own and meet my future in-laws.


Why? Because we are all human. All it would take is one small misunderstanding and things could get blown way out of proportion and cause a lot. The benefit of having your son there is that he grew up with you and he obviously knows his finance. If something were to happen he could bridge the gap and help each side understand the differences.


An extreme example? I inadvertently said something insulting to BF's Aunt. They speak french and my french is mediocre at best. Apparently I translated something wrong.


Bex -

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Registered: 08-04-2008
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 2:39pm

Mary Ann - you really have to look for the positive here.




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Registered: 07-15-2008
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 5:46am

Mary Ann


I am very independent too, but I think the initial time I would of wanted my fiance to come with me too.

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 8:41am

Marie


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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 9:52am

There is no reason why you cannot tell them there is not enough room in the house and they have to stay in a hotel! I disagree with others, it is rude and inconsiderate to just show up with two dogs, when they know very well the size of your house and the health condition you are in. They should also offer to pay you back for the ticket.

It also baffles me why your future DIL doesn't want to stay in a hotel. It gives everyone some privacy. I love my husband's family but I do not want to be with them 24/7.

Your house, your castle.




Edited 8/11/2009 10:07 am ET by demontespan