Frustrated with DH

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Frustrated with DH
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:33pm

I am so irritated with my DH.

We have $3,800 left on our final c/c. We re-fi'ed last month and got a check for our escrow account back yesterday in the amount of $2,682. (we have set up a new escrow account with our new finance company so we don't need this money for taxes).

This is my division of the money:

$300 to savings ( I took out $500 to do my tires. I already put back $200 of that money so in MY head I feel I OWE savings $300)

$2300 to credit card.

$82 in checking for "blow" money / DH and I are going to a concert Sun night and will use it for drinks and entertainment.

I think this is a good division of the money. DH tells me to only put $2,000 on the c/c and leave $300 in checking. I asked what for and he said "for extra." This is dumb to me. The "extra" he is talking about is our sons b-day gift (something we have already budgeted for) and brakes for my car. Also something we can use our regular checking money for (might put us tight until payday but it can be done.)

I hate to put $300 in checking b/c my husband is the KING of blowing money. That money will be gone and we will have nothing signifigant to show for it. It just irritates me.

I try to explain to him that THIS Is how we got into this c/c mess. By taking large chunks of money (I consider $300 a large chunk of money) and using it for NOTHING.

Bottom line is that I control the checking and will probably do it my way. I guess I'm more looking at the big picture. Knowing my unemployment will run out in a few months and knowing we HAVE to save more and we need this c/c payment gone. That is my #1 goal right now.

Sorry, just needed to vent.




Edited 8/28/2009 1:42 pm ET by beepsmomx2
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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:02pm

Sorry about that!

Wedding
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Registered: 08-04-2008
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:40pm

Hmm maybe he does have a good use for the money in his mind?




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Registered: 10-01-2008
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 4:02pm

OK, I tend to go with DH's "just in case".

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Registered: 11-14-2008
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 5:24pm
Oh, oh, oh...those crazy dhs and bfs!! Don't they know it should go where we want it to!! LOL! We had some cash in the house and were going to use it for gas and groceries, then take the money from our account that we usually use for gas and groceries and put it into savings to make a bigger student loan payment. Well...I go online today and he has paid for gas with debit card!! It will all work out eventually. And you are so close!! I'm so proud of you guys! It sounds like you two are on the same page, but you are three quarters down and he is one sentence in. Sounds pretty normal, you will get there.