AAAHHHH!!! Different priorities...
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| Tue, 09-08-2009 - 11:50am |
OMG, I am so mad I could scream!!! But I am going to vent here instead, lol.
So, DH and I got some money about a week ago to help with some repairs that needed to be done to his car. Once we budgeted for parts, paint and labor (all discounted thanks to my BIL) we were supposed to have about $900 left. We put $200 in savings to cover bills and keep from overdrafting; this should leave us with $700.
DH finds this surround sound system HE HAS TO HAVE. Whining, begging, pleading everything... I tell him as long as the rest goes to the credit cards it's fine with me. So, he goes out buys this surround sound for $400 which should leave us with $300.
I'm doing the bills and ask for what should have been a remaining $300 and he tells me we only have $100 left!! I ask him where the other $200 is and he tells me we never had it, that he told me we would only have $700 after the repairs. If that was the case I never would have OKed the surround sound.
HE OUTRIGHT LIED TO ME!!!! He wanted to get his way so badly that he was willing to lie to me and screw up our financial health so he can have some new electronic piece of crap that he's going to want to replace in a year. Now we're going to be in a very narrow and tight spot for the rest of the month because he couldn't wait to get his surround sound. It explains why he refused to wait to buy it until after the repairs were done.
I feel so sick right now...



I can sense your extreme upset about this.
Part of me wants to advise you that since he lied and acted like a child about this then you should act as the "parent" and make him return the surround sound. LOL.
But, that's not the right thing to do. What you NEED to do is tell him that next time he *wants* something and feels like begging and pleading the answer will just be a flat out NO because he put you in a bind financially about this.
Hugs to you. At least you had some "play" money and didn't go in the hole over this.
I understand you are upset. You should be. Gosh I really do hate electronics and toys guys think they need. And the worst part is you know they will want to replace those things even as soon as 6 months for something bigger and better, when you haven't finished paying for the first round of things. I am trying to adopt something into my way of life. If you want something, work extra to get it. Maybe DH will take on a 2nd job to get the things he wants because this is obviously upsetting you. Lots of people do this(my ex) and its just not right. This is a real touchy one for me. I am so sorry you are dealing with this.