do I or don't I

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2008
do I or don't I
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Thu, 09-17-2009 - 7:37am
My husband and I went through some tough financial times and now I just can't seem to snap out of it. We have been on a good track for a few years and it feels so go to pay things down, but my problem is that I have a problem buying things for myself. Like the other day I was at Kohl's and wouldn't buy myself a shirt on clearance but had no problem buying stuff for my son and would of bought something for my hubby but didn't see anything. So why don't I treat myself?? Oh well :) Thanks for listening ;)
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Registered: 07-02-2008
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 9:34am

Congrats on being in a better place financially!

Have you allowed yourself some "play" or "fun" money? If not, you should do that and then if you see something YOU want for YOU then go ahead and get it !!!!

I am the same way you are - I can purchase something for my kids without question but double guess my own purchases for me all the time!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 9:46am
ITA with PP. You need to set aside some blow money for YOU to spend on whatever the heck YOU want. I have started putting aside $5 a week. Not much, but its for ME to be spent on ME. You need to take care of yourself. Your kids deserve it!

Bex -


"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."


Bex -

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2008
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 9:57am
Thanks Ladies! You are both so right. I try to talk myself into it, but i get that little voice in my head that tells me there are bills...I am going to try what you both said and start a little "me fund" and see how that works
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Registered: 03-27-2005
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 11:44am

I'm the same way. I have no trouble buying things that my son or husband need, but if I need something I will go without or make due until I can't anymore. Then I feel guilty about spending the money on myself, even though I desperately need the item in question.

stacy

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Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 1:08pm

You should spend a little money on yourself. Make a game out of it. See how little you can spend. I am wearing a shirt from wal mart I got on clearance for a dollar. I have worn it 10 times!! It is getting a little past its prime but hey I got it for a buck!! If you don't spend money on yourself you will snap and overspend in some area. I believe the trouble I will have is when I need a new couch or something and I have a heart attack thinking about spending that much money! But that is another issue for another day!


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2008
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 1:16pm

Like the other day I was at Kohl's and wouldn't buy myself a shirt on clearance but had no problem buying stuff for my son and would of bought something for my hubby but didn't see anything. So why don't I treat myself??


Because deep down you know the skirt is not really important to you! You have gone beyond material things for yourself and you are now comfortable with who you are - up Maslov's hierarchy of needs, and now you are more into self-actualization which means giving.


A lot of spending people do is due to basic needs, then the need for emotional support.




iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2008
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 10:26pm

During these tight times, I have taken the word "splurge" out of my vocabulary.


The word CLEARANCE is shouted on every aisle in every store these days.