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| Fri, 09-18-2009 - 9:51am |
When I was reading Gals post yesterday, I remember the line "I was secretly hoping to send my kids off to school with the store efund money". It made me smile a bit because I

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Thank you for your response.
I wouldn't necessary call him irresponsible...it's just that we don't see eye to eye on the best investments. Just tonight he said he would love to go to a conference if we had the money some how. I feel terribly guilty because I know that technically we do...it's just that it would almost clear out our emergency fund that he doesn't know about and I can't stomach that. It gave me an upset stomach...but I just think about how I would feel if he used it. Even if he didn't use it for this...I would be on constant pins and needles thinking he was about to touch it.
I just feel so guilty from a biblical perspective. I'm not sure what your background is...by I have a terribly guilty conscience and need to figure out a way to get over it.
Thanks again...samey
I understand about the guilty conscience, but yes, it would do you well to as you say "get over it" because according to Suze Orman, you need to have a 9-month emergency savings before you splurge on anything. Watch her show. Maybe you can get your husband to watch it too and he will see how important it is to have that savings, especially in this day and age. Personally, I would feel guilty if I let him know about it and next thing you know, it's gone.
Incidentally, I'm not really of any religious persuasion, but my father is a biblical scholar and I have discussed these kinds of issues with him in depthly, and he says that the Bible states, along with the Ten Commandments, that it is your responsibility to take care of yourself. I'm not saying that it is okay to be dishonest and to just willy nilly hide things from your husband, but it is important to do the right thing, and in this case, I really don't see that he is giving you much choice, because the right thing is to live within your means and save up that 9-month emergency account.
I don't mean to sound so preachy but I'm in my 50's and been around the block a few times, and this is something I feel strongly about.
Good luck!
You don't trust your husband.
It's not really a secret savings account.
Becky
CL of 4th, 5th & 6th grade Scoliosis
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