Men!!!! Vent vent vent vent!

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Men!!!! Vent vent vent vent!
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Thu, 10-08-2009 - 2:27pm

Warning: Long vent about how annoying men can be (Duke excluded of course)


I think I mentioned in one of the earlier posts that I was planning a surprise party for BF. Well last night He RUINED it (and we got into a fight!!!).


He came home last night and annouced that he was going to go away the saturday before his birthday (night of the party) with his friends. I told not too because I wanted to celebrate his birthday with him. The week before he works all weekend and the weekend after he is in Clearwater with his friend. He said he would be back on his actual birthday (yee friggin yah . . . he works that night so I would have him for a whopping three hours) and couldn't understand what the problem was.


Anyways, he wouldn't agree to "stay home" even when I asked him nicely and told him I would like to do something with him. He


Bex -

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 2:59pm

Awwww. SO sorry to hear your surprise didn't go as planned. Are you sure you want to cancel the party now? I just don't want you to regret that decision in a spur of the moment fight. I think having people over for drinks or something would be a lot of fun - just making sure you aren't doing something harsh your BF will hold over your head later.

He should have just known you were up to something! Men! (sorry Duke.)

I could buzz my hair and dye it purple and my DH would only then probably notice a "change" in my appearance. Otherwise, to him a haircut is a haircut so don't take that too personally. If you need more one on one time and such with BF make sure you TELL HIM you need that. Communication is the key to any good relationship. Sometimes I just need a hug and I tell my DH that. He has no way of knowing if I don't express myself.

Sorry you are down about things but I am sure it will work out for the best with the b-day party.

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Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 4:13pm

I'm so sorry Bex! All that planning.........I hope he feels really bad(No offense Duke)

You know they really don't get it. Sometimes I wonder if they think just because we are in the same bed they happen to sleep in that, that is enough for us because that is enough for them.

I tell my bf when he is cooking. I usually do it when I am stressed out with kid activities or have had a bad day. I am always the one to set up date nights because I know what my schedule is and his but he doesn't always know mine or mine changes with the kids. At least I have control over when it is LOL!

That sleeping bag may just be his to purchase alone. He is not as good as you are with your money and it will stress him out a lot less if he wants it that bad.

Why do they always come up with something "new" that they want(mine wants a comfy reading chair. I bet he has no idea it will cost about $1500 for what he described to me) or something "you" need to have or do like "oh I bet you would look great if you lost 15lbs and I'm just saying that because I love you and I want you to be happier and healthier". I stopped listening...........it was for my mental health. I just nod my head and hope he forgets about it before the next new thing comes along!

Sorry I started ranting....it happens.


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Registered: 10-01-2009
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 10:19pm

Ladies ladies ladies...sounds like you really love your guys thats really nice.....


Bex- make sure your not getting the wrong end of the stick in this relationship...


I am not in a comitted relationship currently (by choice...am enjoying a bit of freedom and dating a few people) but when I have been in one in the past I have always felt that we should be there for each other always and put each other first.


I'm sorry you had the fight Bex

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Registered: 10-01-2008
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 9:08am

I'd cancel it or BUST!

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus