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found out husband is hiding debt
| Tue, 10-13-2009 - 5:03pm |
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Edited 10/21/2009 5:20 pm ET by blueparrotgirl
Edited 10/21/2009 5:20 pm ET by blueparrotgirl
| Tue, 10-13-2009 - 5:03pm |
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. I have forgiven him and we did have a long talk about communication and being able to ask for help. He feels terrible and ashamed, which I'm sure is normal.
I don't know that this is normal between a husband and wife - maybe a mother and child?
Edited 10/21/2009 5:21 pm ET by blueparrotgirl
Edited 10/21/2009 5:21 pm ET by blueparrotgirl
Well letting you down or whatever I think it is bad when a husband is afraid to face his wife or a wife is afraid to face her husband.
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Edited 10/21/2009 5:22 pm ET by blueparrotgirl
Regarding using a CC as opposed to savings, I think many here would be similar to your husband.
I have an emergency savings account, how I see that account is for an unexpected event - like a car repair, or hospital co-pay from an emergency.
Blue,
I think you did post this on the right board - a few on this board (including myself) have hidden debt from their spouses. You are a good person to help him deal with this and do it in such a mature manner. My husband didn't have the best reaction to my debt hiding and I couldn't blame him one bit. We did need to work on our communication and I think that was great for our relationship. Things are SO much better and different now. People make mistakes and I think you have realized that your DH made one. Life goes on.
I don't think that necessarily means that your relationship has problems or that you have some kind of parent/child exchange with your spouse.
I have gotten and taken criticism of people who tell me that because I hid debt my husband should leave me and never trust me. That is their opinion and I am glad my DH has more faith in me then a stranger who judges quickly. So be it.
Don't let someone elses two cents make you feel like you aren't a strong partner in your relationship.
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