Being taken to the cleaners by ex...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Being taken to the cleaners by ex...
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Wed, 11-11-2009 - 3:36pm

But trying to keep it together.


So ya'll know I pay my ex child support.

 

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Registered: 10-01-2008
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 3:57pm
Good luck with the Ex.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Registered: 05-06-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 4:32pm
Child support goes by income so if he takes you back unless your income increased he's not getting anything more. Personally I'd be going for 1/2 the kids medical as that's fair.
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Registered: 08-23-2006
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 4:34pm

I am sorry that you have to go through this! Just know that you are not alone! We have a greedy ex-wife here......dh (and I) pay child support, pay for insurance, pay for 1/2 of all co-pays for meds and drs visits, and she also sends the kids to our house asking for new shoes, clothes, etc.

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Registered: 08-04-2008
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 8:25pm

You pay something, good for you.




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Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 11:43am

Oh this is not a fun situation. I hope the judge asks him how his job search is going? And if he has a job why he doesn't get another one. Lots of us have kids and two jobs. I think you should bring up your health care situation(were you not the lady that dropped your own because you could not afford it??) Ask for the kids more often to get your obligations reduced.

I think I am one of the lucky ones.......My ex has a girlfriend and I have boyfriend. (his girlfriend has a teenager). We have our kids 50/50. We make close to the same money although he probably makes more now. I have no intention of asking him for support. I don't want to go to court and I don't want his %$#@ing money. I don't know what will happen in the next few years here. I am wondering if my oldest or both boys will say they want to stay with their father full time(he is the one that gives them all the ipods and video games and doesn't ask them to brush their teeth). I don't want that. The only way I would even consider that is if my ex said he didn't want any support and I could still see them for dinner at my house ect. I can see how it would be difficult to be in high school and shuffle back and forth but I will deal with that when the time comes if it even does.

These situations are not easy. It is more than ok to let the judge know you struggles as well. Good luck.