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Hustand Living In A Dream World!
| Fri, 11-13-2009 - 1:18pm |
Hi-
I am so upset with my husband because he is totally living in a dream world!
| Fri, 11-13-2009 - 1:18pm |
Hi-
I am so upset with my husband because he is totally living in a dream world!
Do you want to stay married?
Hugs.
I can't tell you if bankrupsy is the right thing to do or not. I am not in your household. I had $28,000 in c/c debt and the minimums were killing us. BUT, we had high interest rates. What are your interest rates? Doesn't matter how many times I called to lower them - they wouldn't do it and we had good credit. Oy. It was soooo frustrating.
Ok, sorry, got off on a tangent there. As the previous poster (Marie I think it was) said you two have got to stop the blame game. There is no point blaming him for changing careers. Would you rather have an unhappy spouse for the next 30 years b/c he detests his job? He changed careers to better his mental status. To me - that is a priceless thing to do.
You both charged on those cards so pointing fingers isn't going to help here.
If he is so adament to not declare BK then he needs a game plan to pay these cards. Ask him (without confronting him meanly....) what his game plan is to get more money IMMEDIATELY. Cuz the bills are due now. If he truly has a game plan, gets a 2nd job, etc. then wait and seee how it works out. If not, keep your BK appointments and see what they suggest for you.
Hugs. Its not an easy choice.
YOU are the realistic partner!
I'm sorry you are going through this...while I agree w/some of the previous posters regarding it being both of you who got into debt, I'm wondering if you feel frustrated because you have maybe explained your concern to dh in the past about this possibility and had it go unheard....I don't know if that is the case or not, but I can relate to feelings of frustration when dh doesn't listen and maybe doesn't take on as much responsibility as I would like....
Anyway, my opinion is that you have to do what you have to do. If there is any way to type up/write up your income and expenses/bills for dh, that may be helpful. It seems to work best without much in the way of words. Just giving it to him and asking him to help figure out a way because you can see no way out at this point other than bankruptcy. The "Black and white" approach