I am not as upset as I thought I would be, likely because I know this is for the best. We made the decision to move intogether for the wrong reasons: because he hated where he was living and my roommate was moving out. We set ourselves up to fail from the beginning. My sister was living with us and at the time had just broken up with her bf and started partying and going out every night (driving my bf insane!) and resentment started blah blah blah.
So when we talked we knew that this situation was no longer and option, but not dating was not an option either, so this was the "happy medium" if you will. Its for the best. If things go as they look like they are going, he will be going to police college for four months and then get posted somewhere so we would had had to do long distance for a year or two anyway. At least this way when he goes I will be out of debt and able to save money to visit!
Bex -
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."
I'm sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you've got the best attitude about it! I'm amazed that you guys can back it up a step and keep right on going. I hope it's SO much better from here, and I'm thrilled that you'll be able to get out of debt so much sooner! (((Hugs)))!
I think you are right. It its meant to be, it will be. We both realized that if we kept going like this, we had no chance. We both have thought about just breaking up, but neither one of us could stomach the thought (his exact words were "the thought of
Oh Bex I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you are not too stressed as change for me is stressful. At least it is not you that is moving. Boy is he gonna miss your cooking!
I did not realize the SUV was to do with the bf? I thought it was for the dogs? Good thing you don't need those new tires now.
Not that you are totally breaking up but if a sugar daddy comes along promise me you will think about it. Lord knows I messed that up twice. LOL, I know you are independent but wouldn't it be nice to hang out with someone who has a clue about money, has started planning and has a little direction. Don't get me wrong, not perfect over here. My bf didn't even to go university until he was 32, got a degree, and still has student loans at 37. Mind you he/we have almost half paid, but this is the time when we should have a house already that we plan on living in and paying down the mortgage. Oh well, a few more years and it will happen. But to be honest, nothing is written in stone and we have only been together for just over 2 years. I guess that is why it is so important for me to get this debt paid off. Because then I have options with someone and with out.
Ok, enough rambling. Get some rest and don't think too much! Let things settle for a bit. Give yourself some time. And he better be calling you for dates not the other way around!
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Oh Bex, I am so sorry!
Kate
{{{HUGS}}} Bex.
I can only imagine the whirlwind of emotions you are going through right now.
Thanks ladies.
I am not as upset as I thought I would be, likely because I know this is for the best. We made the decision to move intogether for the wrong reasons: because he hated where he was living and my roommate was moving out. We set ourselves up to fail from the beginning. My sister was living with us and at the time had just broken up with her bf and started partying and going out every night (driving my bf insane!) and resentment started blah blah blah.
So when we talked we knew that this situation was no longer and option, but not dating was not an option either, so this was the "happy medium" if you will. Its for the best. If things go as they look like they are going, he will be going to police college for four months and then get posted somewhere so we would had had to do long distance for a year or two anyway. At least this way when he goes I will be out of debt and able to save money to visit!
Bex -
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."
Bex -
Bex...It is terrific living on your own...I absolutely LOVE IT...
Girlfriends and buddies can visit but its sooooo nice to have the place on your own when you want it...
I got soooo tired of serial monogamy....living together... its fine sometimes but I forgot how awesome it is to be on your own
Great that your still dating...
Duke
Good job in making the decision Bex.
Thanks Marie,
I think you are right. It its meant to be, it will be. We both realized that if we kept going like this, we had no chance. We both have thought about just breaking up, but neither one of us could stomach the thought (his exact words were "the thought of
Bex -
I agree with some of the other people, you seems to have a good attitude about the new different relationship.
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
Oh Bex I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you are not too stressed as change for me is stressful. At least it is not you that is moving. Boy is he gonna miss your cooking!
I did not realize the SUV was to do with the bf? I thought it was for the dogs? Good thing you don't need those new tires now.
Not that you are totally breaking up but if a sugar daddy comes along promise me you will think about it. Lord knows I messed that up twice. LOL, I know you are independent but wouldn't it be nice to hang out with someone who has a clue about money, has started planning and has a little direction. Don't get me wrong, not perfect over here. My bf didn't even to go university until he was 32, got a degree, and still has student loans at 37. Mind you he/we have almost half paid, but this is the time when we should have a house already that we plan on living in and paying down the mortgage. Oh well, a few more years and it will happen. But to be honest, nothing is written in stone and we have only been together for just over 2 years. I guess that is why it is so important for me to get this debt paid off. Because then I have options with someone and with out.
Ok, enough rambling. Get some rest and don't think too much! Let things settle for a bit. Give yourself some time. And he better be calling you for dates not the other way around!
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