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the economy and relationships
| Sat, 11-21-2009 - 1:14am |
Today I found out that my coworker in the next office is getting a divorce.
| Sat, 11-21-2009 - 1:14am |
Today I found out that my coworker in the next office is getting a divorce.
Bahahah no worries Robyn, I didn't think it was. My situation was made by bad choices. To be honest, I am so insulated in this government city that I haven't really noticed any difference due to the economy except for really great sales (I hope that doesnt' offend anyone, I know so many are struggling).
I think that the economy does impact relationships. BUT the funny thing is I was reading and article (I'll try and find it) that say divorce filings are down in a recession (people can't afford it) and then peak afterward. I guess they decide to split (stress compounded by financials likey) stay together for financial reasons and then split when they can. Its sad really.
Bex -
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."
Bex -
Hi Robyn,
Here's a link on the subject that you might find interesting (I always like to provide some information when I post!):
http://www.totaldivorce.com/news/articles/society/recession-and-divorce-link.aspx
What disturbs me is not so much the spike in divorce, but the welfare of couples FORCED to stay together because of the economy.
I am like girlygirl. I am in a heavy federal government area. Now that being said what I do is highly specialized and in demand. I have friends and famly that are having a rough time so I have cut my spending way back because I do not like to make them feel bad at all.
Most people I know are sticking together because they can't afford to split. My hubby is gone most of the month for his job. We have our issues and most of the time we get along.
Very interesting link.
Thanks to everyone for posting your thoughts and opinions.
Robyn
This has nothing (I don't think anyway) with divorce, but it does have to do with the lack of money.
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
When things are good they are good, but when things are bad every little annoyance gets magnified, including the money, or a job loss or bad spending habits.
A split is supposed to be simple. You have two columns on a piece of paper, one with assets and one with liabilities. It is not simple though because usually there is a house involved that one person wants to keep. Well that person can not usually afford to keep it because they would have to buy out their spouse. That is fine if the couple has investments that equal the equity in the home but it is not usually the case. Usually the couple has a few investments and a lot of debt. So they have to sell the house, and cash in their investments to pay off the debt. Then they have reestablishment costs and live on one income. That is why it is so financially terrible to get divorced. You can't share living expenses and it is like starting over or worse.
It is not easy in any sense of the word and a very difficult thing to go through every time. I feel sorry for people that are incredibly unhappy and stay for those reasons though even if it takes a few years to get back on your feet.
Its a tough one!
It's a good time for some people to pull the trigger on their divorce. Reason being incomes being down less support gets ordered to be paid out.
Ouch. It's the ugly truth.
When they show their profit and loss statement to the judge, it's lower now than say the last three or four years. So, the judge grants lower amounts for child support, etc.
And yeah, divorces have been very high around me unfortunately, leaving me feel empty at times.