So discouraged!!!

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Registered: 08-23-2006
So discouraged!!!
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Wed, 02-03-2010 - 9:18am

I can't win for loosing! DH is mad at me and everything is (apparently) my fault!


Last Tuesday I scheduled all the bills for Friday (29th), I paid off a cc paid one wayyyy down and the mortgage. Well, for some UNKNOWN reason when I scheduled the mortgage it just didn't take. I KNOW that I scheduled it....I can tell you where I was sitting, what was on the TV when I did it online! Well, last night we were looking at the bank acct and dh said "are you sure you paid the mortgage?" and I said "yea, it just takes a few days to come out sometimes". Well, he looked further and could not find it scheduled ANYWHERE!

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Wed, 02-03-2010 - 9:31am

Sorry to hear this. Maybe you could call the mortgage company asap and explain the mistake. They may be willing to forgo any fees if you are proactive. This will help with DH too. You can tell him you took initiative to fix the mistake.


As a side note, if DH is so worried about these things, tell him to do it himself or stick his nasty words ... well, you get the idea (lol, as you can tell, I am single hehehe)


As a second side note, I make this mistake all the time when transferring money from a certain account. For some reason there is an extra step involved that I always seem to miss, so I often think I have it set up, but don't. Oh well, live and learn!


Bex -


"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."


Bex -

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Registered: 01-12-2010
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 9:43am
I agree with Bex - def call & let them know. And ya, our deal in our house is that if you don't pay the bills, you don't get to say much to the other person that does pay them.
Melissa
~ Mom to 5 ~
~ Melissa ~ ‎"We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us, if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity." - Barbara de Angelis
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Registered: 11-14-2008
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 10:42am

Don't be too hard on your self. These things happen. And I bet you won't let it happen again.

Do you call him nasty words when you he talks you into buying things? Probably not. I would bring it up and say it is not necessary to do that in either case and lets move forward.

Hope today is better and you have forgiven yourself already. You can do this.


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Registered: 08-04-2008
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 11:33am

Amanda-


Relax, he needed to vent about something somewhere and you were the scapegoat.


But this is what I do that might help you.




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Registered: 08-23-2006
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 12:41pm
Thanks everyone. I called the company to explain, of course they really don't care, but they are willing to see about "not reporting it as late" which is what I was most concerned about. We've NEVER been late on a mortgage payment, not even when times were at their worst! I called dh to tell him that and he was very short with me.......oh well, I will be the scapegoat for him today, BUT.......if he wants to continue to give me attitude then I am gonna hand the responsibility over to him and see how long we stay current!!!
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Registered: 10-01-2008
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 1:10pm

I've done the same thing transferring money from savings to checking.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus