Letting go of regrets
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Letting go of regrets
| Sun, 02-14-2010 - 8:54pm |
I’m not sure if anyone noticed, but last week in our weekly accountability thread I posted that the cabinet in my dining room had collapsed and described how much I despise the furniture in there.

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I think everyone has buyer's remorse/panic/anxiety after a large purchase such as yours - That is a lot of money.
*heck I returned a $25.00 pair of pants because I was determined if I waited long enough I would find them on sale cheaper or come across a coupon - needless to say when I did get the coupon they were out of my size and offered no rain checks on the item I needed ----so that adds a number 3 to my list and that is - THE ITEM was on sale AND in stock !!! hee heee !!!
But,I think you should be proud. For one, you made a decision about a large spending amount -not to mention researched the price and also got it on sale- and for two - you paid cash.
You have quite a unique situation with your ex which is nice.
You should be proud of the decisions you are making !!!
XoXo Shannon
2010 YTD Flake $320.50
2010 YTD Flake to Savings $193.33
You know what, Kate?
Kate I mean this in the best possible way....
Chill out girl...
Enjoy the lovely furniture and I agree that was very sweet of your ex...
Just think if you did not get what you got, what would you be living with? A huge empty spot or worse a pile of broken cabinet?
I know the feeling.
Be happy Kate. You've worked hard, and saved a ton of money and you are in a place to pay CASH for these items. Good for you.
Enjoy the new office space. How cool is it that the desk can become and table if needed? Thats sounds really neat!
Bex -
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."
Bex -
Lol Duke,
You crack me up!
Bex -
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift -thats why its called the present."
Bex -
I agree with the others! Enjoy your new furniture. I'm sitting here at a desk from Target that I bought the year I got married which wasn't so long ago (2002), but still! It's horrible and disgusting! There's stains all over it and scratches and it's way too small and has no filing drawers. I hate it! But I have yet to find a desk that will work for me. I have a rug that is disintegrating below my feet and a couch that has been through the wringer with 3 kids and a cat! My entertainment center doors are slowly falling off because my kids swing on them like tarzan!
I know what you mean though. It is so hard to spend money like that when you've been broke and in financial crisis! Another thing: why do you think the salesperson assumed you were poor? I think that we all need to re-examine our attitudes about ourselves. When you go through what we have, it takes a toll on you. The other day I realized that I have spent the past 10 years not thinking I'm worthy enough to take care of myself. I got pregnant at 19 and spent years really struggling to come out of my depression over how my life had turned out. This is the year that I've finally decided that I AM worth it. I don't have to exude this attitude of being less than anyone else just because I may not make as much money or have the most exalted career or have made the best decisions in life. I am just as good as anyone else. I have really noticed a huge difference since doing this and the most surprising part is that I've noticed a difference in the way others treat me! I've been going to the gym and before if I saw a good looking guy I would have avoided him like the plague thinking that he was going to take one look at my fat self and not want anything to do with me (not that I'm looking for hunky guys or anything) but lately I'll smile and talk to people with confidence and this hunky guy actually started flirting with me a little! WHAT! Wasn't I too fat for him to look at? Wasn't I not worth anyone's attention because I'm not successful and I had a horrible lapse in judgement one night as a 19 year old?
OK - so I totally got off subject, but I know that you have talked about your dating situation and other things and I think I've come across an epiphany. Other people treat you the way you want to be treated. If you view yourself as poor and unattractive, that's how others will see you. If you view yourself as successful and outgoing, that's how others will see you. I actually spent a whole 30 minutes crying over this discovery a few weeks ago. I realized that I haven't forgiven myself for being a teen mom and that I've spent the last 10 years beating myself up and emotionally eating over this.
Congratulations on your great purchase!!
I feel your pain.
Norma
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus
I think that it is great that you bought exactly what you wanted and paid with cash! I did that last year and I have no regrets either because I was really sure about what type of dressers we wanted and needed for our bedroom. This year we bought the bedframe and so far no regrets either. I agree also that was very nice of your ex to chip in :)!
Enjoy your new furniture!
Liz
Liz
student loan paid off 2010
Bathroom remodel loan paid off 2013
Pending Car loan to be paid by the end of 2014!!!!!
PS.. EX hubby sounds pretty good. That was so great that he treated his girls to new chairs
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