Blue

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Wed, 03-03-2010 - 4:28pm

I feel so bad because I have absolutely.no.positive.words of encouragement lately, so I'm not really responding to threads.
Normally I'm a pretty positive, supportive person but I've got nothing. I just feel all blue and whiny about my life lol.

I'm so frustrated about my DH lately.
What set the tone for Feb was our Jan EOM cheque. DH chose to stay enrolled in the stock plan for 2010. The company matches what you put in it. But he didn't read the fine print. Last year (2009), because he'd only worked for the company for 3 months in 2008, he was only eligible to buy $280 a month. So he just ASSUMED it would be the same. But he worked for them all of 2009, so now his monthly max is $781! So that was missing on our Jan 31 paycheque.

Then he stalled and stalled and didn't deal with it soon enough, so ANOTHER $781 got taken off the Feb EOM cheque!

In addition, our child support "arrears" are paid up but we still pay $1070 ever month. Because there was a garnishee in place last year, it has to stay until June (we can't self-pay). I told DH to make sure he talked to payroll so that it would all come off the 15th paycheque, and none off the EOM cheques because the first 10 days of the month are 2 mortgages, truck, and RV payments.
Of course he didn't do it. So they took half ($535) off the Feb EOM cheque. It pisses me off in so many ways, because the money isn't even due until the 15th!!
So he worked OT in Feb, the cheque should've been $2600 but instead we got $1300.

So I'm starting out March absolutely short, not to mention I still have to deal with the renter screw up from last month. I've got enough money to barely pay what has to be paid.

But it's some guys last day tomorrow, so they're all going out for beers & supper after. Meanwhile I'm trying to figure out if I can possibly make my grocery budget until the 15th stretch any further than it already has.

We had a HUGE fight yesterday about money. And I mean HUGE. I told him he could do whatever he wanted with his money and enjoy his nice house with no power and no food all ALONE because I wouldn't be here.

I just feel so darn alone, kwim? Like this is not just MY problem, but I'm the only one dealing with it.

I honestly don't know, how many more "things" like this I can deal with.

Melissa
~ Mom to 5 ~
~ Melissa ~ ‎"We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us, if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity." - Barbara de Angelis

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Registered: 08-04-2008
In reply to: young_momof5
Fri, 03-05-2010 - 7:35pm

Melissa!




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