For girl's eyes only...

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For girl's eyes only...
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 4:26pm

Ok, so tonight my girlfriends are getting together for one of those 'toy' parties. I'm surely not a prudish person but I somehow feel weird talking about this on the DSG board! I have money put aside (from my tax return) and I haven't bought anything fun in a long long time and when life is so stressful, you have to make something fun in your life.

How do you guys feel about these parties? Have you ever been to one? How do you keep your marriage going when there's no money for anything, no dates, no lingerie, no fun!


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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 11:55am

I can't speak for the toy parties but DH and I have been married for 13 years as of July 4th and things are still RED HOT. I can't explain it other than to say he is the sweetest, most romantic, hottest guy out there. I dare say that he still puts us first, even after all of these years, and never fails to make me feel like it. He tells me he loves me many times a day, never leaves the house or the yard without kissing me, does little thoughtful things all the time, and prefers to spend his downtime with his family. He doesn't go out with the guys (says they can find him here if they want to see him) and I don't go out with the girls. Most people say that's a way to suffocate each other, but we are still going strong after over 14 years together. I seriously can't wait to go to bed every night, and it has nothing to do with being pregnant or tired! He is just incredible, and we rarely miss a night if you know what I mean. Other than a few stretches of this pregnancy (which has left me throwing up for weeks on end) and the six week period following the birth of each child, we've never gone more than a day or two without *that* ... and even in those first weeks postpartum we just avoid that one thing, not all of it! I guess what they say is true - the more you do it the more you want it! But the way he acts toward me, like I'm everything in the world he needs, is hard to resist. I don't know what makes HIM still feel that way, but as for me, there's nothing I wouldn't do for him and we are literally closer than we have ever been. For us, it's not about things that require money. We're content just to hang out, and if we get away from the kids and walk on the beach or something, great. If not, we have so much fun together just hanging out at home that it doesn't even matter. What we do isn't important. Cliche as it sounds, it's all about being together! (And since we're pregnant after my tubal, LOL, I'd say we have that part down to a science!)

Just ENJOY each other! It's free!

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Sarah
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 12:09pm
Oh how sweet!!! That's awesome! My husband is pretty attentive as well but our drives tend to be opposite. Plus with his horrible schedule, he's just exhausted all the time but when we do get around to spending time together, we definitely enjoy each others company even after 11 years of being with the same person. I have a friend who was at the party with me and as the toys were being passed around she asked 'do you ever think about other people while you're doing 'it'. And I had to tell her no. It was kind of awkward. I still enjoy my husband. Your husband sounds much more romantic than mine though. Mine is like a neanderthal.


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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 12:10pm
That is hilarious!


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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 12:50pm

Quite the "Hot" topic on this board!

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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:35pm

Ummm, ya I'd say that had to be awkward!
I couldn't imagine someone asking me that at a party, it just seems so personal!

Don't get me started on the toy topic. I shudder to think how much has been spent in my house on those things....lol....The first Cmas DH & I spent together, neither of us had our kids...and my stocking was 100% stuff bought at the adult store...lol....Kind of set the tone for our relationship ;)

Melissa
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~ Melissa ~ ‎"We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us, if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity." - Barbara de Angelis
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:11pm

I think he saves all the nice behavior he's got for me. I made a cake for one of the secretaries and she wanted to know how in the world I could live with him. I'm thinking, are you kidding? LOL. He's pretty grumpy toward most people - especially at work and in the morning - but I find it endearing! =c)

Good for you guys, and enjoy the toys!

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Sarah
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 5:31pm

Im soooo sorry Abbie


I couldnt resist and I peeked....


I got lots of giggles reading the entries...


Now I know a few lady friends

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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 9:10pm

My boyfriend and I are sorta long distance so the toy is nice, but replace him with it? NO WAY! I can't imagine replacing him with it.

Someone mentioned Adam and Eve - they have some pretty neat stuff. Another good place is a place called "The Lion's Den" -- not sure if that place is only in Michigan or nationwide.

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