Stressed out from the death of my kitty

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Stressed out from the death of my kitty
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Sat, 12-01-2007 - 10:04pm

today my beloved cat Shadow died, she had been part of my life for the last 19 years. I cant seem to stop crying and to tell the truth, I just want her back! I know this isnt possible, but that is how I feel. I have spent the last two days crying, crying because she was sick and now because she died. I dont if this deep sorrow and constant crying could do anything to my pregnancy. But I am so sad, I didnt know we had so many tears in our body. Tonight will be one of first nights that I wont have to hold up the covers waiting for her to crawl under with me. This will be the first night she wont hog the bed and lay so close to me that I cant roll over. I wish that I could take back all those times I pushed her away from me, I wish I could go back and just stay up holding her all night long, had I known she would die today, I would have stayed awake petting her.
There is no kitty in the world like her. She was with me through all my bad times, all my sorrows all my good times. I dont know how many times her fur soaked up my tears as I cried cuddling her over some tradgity in my life. Can sorry hurt my unborn baby? This totally sucks!!!!!!!!

Dyan




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Sat, 12-01-2007 - 11:16pm

Dyan,

I am not a big pet person, but I know that the deaths of my friends' dogs and cats were very difficult for them. My friend's cat (just shy of 20) died last month and it was horrible...she was sick for the past 2 years and I like to think that she (the cat) is in a better place. But I felt so horrible for my friend, who is so, so sad.

My dad died recently and everyone told me that he wasn't suffering anymore and that he is in better place. I know that as much as I want him here, I would not wish for him to suffer one moment more than he had to. And if he were still alive, he would still be suffering. Someone told me that the reason I miss him so much is because he was such a wonderful father. And that is true.

The reason you miss your kitty so much is because she was a wonderful cat and member of your family. Please try to remember those good times with her, and do not feel guilty about pushing her away. Even if you hadn't done that, you would've felt guilty about something else.

I can tell you that while I still miss my father every day, it does get easier with time. And it will get better for you, too. This I promise.

Crying for your cat is OK...but I have read that extreme grief/sadness/shock can be difficult for your unborn baby. Please try to take care of yourself and your baby. I think it's perfectly natural for you to mourn the loss of your cat...but please realize that none of us will live forever, and it sounds like you gave her a wonderful life and home. Cherish your memories with her...

Please take care!

xxoo
Lois

  

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Sat, 12-01-2007 - 11:39pm

thank you, I know its hard to compair the death of a pet to that of a human family member, but, geez this doesnt feel any different. we have other pets in the house even another cat, but he is no shadow, you cant pick him up and put him where you want him,




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Registered: 02-28-2007
Sat, 12-01-2007 - 11:51pm
I hope the pain dissipates gradually...I know you will always miss her. She sounds like she was very special and a wonderful member of your family who gave you unconditional love. :-(

  

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Sun, 12-02-2007 - 8:02pm

thanks,

she gave me all the love I gave her. it was a very special bond... today I was actually looking at kitties on line, maybe .. just maybe Ill get another one,

I will say, that last night was the total pits. there was such an empty spot, no kitty next to me, no kitty hogging the bed, no kitty purring as I held. NO kitty standing there waiting for me to lift the covers.. it was soooooo sad, I cried and cried till I fell asleep.

I am hoping tonight will be easier.

Dyan




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Registered: 02-08-2007
Mon, 12-03-2007 - 7:17am

Hi Dyan


I just wanted to say I am very sorry about the loss of your kitty.

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Tue, 12-04-2007 - 5:53pm

Dyan,

I'm so sorry you lost your beloved Shadow. I'm sure that the pregnancy hormones and emotions have only made it that much harder - I know I have been crying more and more easily lately over little things, so big things would be even worse from that perspective, too.

It will be hard to get used to, but time will help. And once your baby is here, you'll have even more to occupy your mind and your time.

I'm glad you had so many good years with your cat - I'm sure he was happy to have had you to spend his life with, too.

Hugs,
Kitty

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Tue, 12-04-2007 - 8:02pm

thank you..

Tears flow freely over here, I am always crying.. sad show on tv.. boo hoo .. OH yes tears flow. I am looking for a new kitten, I know she just died, but even though im going to have a baby soon, there is still that kitty hole in my heart. its getting a little easier, but I have at least one really good cry per day.. then I spend the other times choking back tears.
usually when im idle that I think of her the most.

I have been trying to keep busy, but its too hard on my body.. so I need to slow down now... or im gonna deliver too soon... my doc said I was already dilated a finger tip.. though that dont mean anything since..this is my 5 kid..

anyway thank you
Dyan




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Registered: 04-16-2007
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 11:40am
Sorry Diane for the loss of your kitty. I know they become such a part of the family. Shadow has been through a lot with you over the years. Take Care

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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 11:47am

Thank you so much, I will say that it is getting easier especially at night, when we would spend most of our time together, that is of course when hubby and I werent making this baby... LOL

Dyan




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