When to tell the family?
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|Tue, 01-01-2008 - 9:05pm|
I know some of us can't wait to tell everyone the good news, but others want to wait until after the first trimester before announcing the news.
I have been married for 18 years, and we never wanted a baby, never thought we would, so telling everyone is going to be a big, big deal. I have crafted a plan to fly back to the West coast to tell our parents, siblings, and oldest friends right at 3 months (before my belly announces it as I walk into the room!)
For my local friends I am having a really hard time keeping it to myself. I want to tell everyone! I have four local dear friends - my brat pack - who have been in on the plan since the first day. I have told two of them, and they both burst into tears. I plan to tell the other two this week, but once it gets out I am afraid it will be hard to control the news here at home.
DH could wait until month 8 without mentioning it to a soul, but realizes I need a lot of support, and is fine with sharing with a few close friends. I have dear friends, though, who I am not planning to tell, and I worry they will be hurt, and sad I am missing out on their support in these early days.
Is anyone else going through this? Has anyone told *everyone* only to have take it back a few weeks in? Has anyone been hurt by a friend keeping it to themselves? I admit to feeling that way when my sister-in-law told us all the same weekend at the beginning of her 4th month. I also can't quite believe I am actually pregnant, and am still taking tests every couple days. My first OB appointment isn't until January 30, which might as well be in 2009!