To work or stay at home?

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Registered: 06-30-2007
To work or stay at home?
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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 7:14pm

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Registered: 08-26-2005
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 9:39pm

Tonya,


For me there was never any real choice.

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Registered: 05-16-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 10:10pm

I am staying at home, I have been since october.

I am giving up 31K and that is a lot but my husband and I feel that with the right changes and sacrifices we can make it. so we do without, I dont have a problem with bagging my own groceries to save on food, I have no problem going to a thrift store for a pair of jeans that is just as good then the crap they sell at the name brand stores. Ill clip coupons if I have to. I will sit in the dark more. We are not big on going out all the time and we rarely get take out, unless its off the dollar menu. I figure with our income tax return we can pay off some bills and close a few accounts that will cut down on monthly expenses. Since I have been home we have realized that we must have wasted so much money on stupid things, because I dont really feel deprived right now. I am not living any differently, we still have food on the table, our lights still turn on, the gas is still working to keep us warm and the bill collection calls are at bay.

So I am the lucky one, I am a stay at home mommy and I get to be with my children after school and my baby gets me all day.

Dyan




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Registered: 06-30-2007
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 8:00am
Thanks Carole and Dyan for your experiences.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:17am

Hi Tonya,


I'm not pregnant right now, but I stopped working to stay home when my son was born almost 4 years ago.

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Registered: 01-05-2008
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 1:10pm

I've gone to college, got the good job and worked all my life.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 1:38pm
I am still struggling with this myself. I, too, would be giving up a large income to stay home with my child. I would like, ideally, to stay at home with the baby for three to six months, then return to work on a part-time basis. But my employer may say it's full time or nothing. If that's the case, I am prepared to say goodbye to my large salary. That's why my husband and I are saving money like crazy and paying down debts, just in case we'll be living on one income when the little one gets here.

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Registered: 05-16-2007
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 4:17pm

I just love 1.80 cloths.. you feel like you're a super shopper when you find deals like that... LOL Anyway, I am happy that hubby and I are both together in this addition to our family. I am also glad that my children consider him daddy too.. well when he isnt punishing them for being "STUPID" but thats their own fault they need someone around to keep them in line when they screw up.. but then after all is said and done and the groundings end, they are right back to calling him daddy.. But I suspect that is typical to a blended family.

Good luck on finding a good day care, it is so important.

Just make sure you get references from the place and make sure you call them, ask for references from people who are no long using their service too.. you have that right plus it is your dime and your baby

Dyan




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Registered: 01-20-2008
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 9:22am
When I was pregnant with my first, who is now two, I stopped working two months before he was delivered.
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Registered: 06-30-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:21am

Wow that's a lot of money to give up!

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Registered: 01-20-2008
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:29am
That is a lot of time to be on your feet!

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