Does Godmother = Religion? Guardianship?
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|Mon, 03-15-2010 - 11:27pm|
I also posted this message on the August EC board, but I thought some of the non-traditional (and traditional) thinkers around here could also help give me some insight on the following matter:
Is it appropriate to have a "Godparent" for your baby if you do not belong to a religion? My good friend and I decided she would be the baby's Godmother, without me really thinking through what exactly that role means. It's clear what it means in the Catholic church, and even some other Christian churches, but for me I was thinking more of her almost as an "honorary aunt," having a bigger stake in the baby's well-being than the casual observer.
Also, I'm not necessarily planning a formal ceremony to dedicate my child to a religion, although I might consider another form of ceremony, such as a welcoming ceremony or a baby naming ceremony. And then, some think the Godparent(s) would be the child's legal guardian should something happen to you, but I definitely haven't decided on that issue yet either. And from what I understand, that title alone has no legal standing in this country. If something happens to the parent(s), the Godparent would only become guardian if they are designated as such in a legal document.
I really have no idea if my friend expects something I'm not ready to do. She's more traditionally religious than I am, so she may expect me to take the same approach as she would. Also, at one point she asked me whether my sisters knew she was the Godmother, almost like she thought they might be upset by it, so if she's thinking it means legal guardianship, I'm not prepared to designate that to her at this point. I've already affectionately referred to her as "the Godmama," and I wouldn't want to take that back, but now I'm thinking I should talk to her about the specifics of what this might mean, and especially what she might think it means.