MIL question creeping me out!

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MIL question creeping me out!
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Sun, 12-27-2009 - 12:15am

OK, let me just say that for the most part, I like and get along with my MIL.

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Sun, 12-27-2009 - 1:30pm

I think your response was completely appropriate and it was a heck of a lot nicer than what I was thinking you should say. My DH is here with me and he agrees - unless you and your DH are asking his mother for money to help with expenses or her help in raising your children (which I do not get from your post at all) she has absolutely no business asking this question - or any question regarding your DH's personal life.

Why didn't your DH confront his mother and tell her to butt out? Just curious.

Again, I think you were totally appropriate in your response - lets hope this ends her nosy-nelly-ness.

Susan

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Sun, 12-27-2009 - 2:06pm

Thanks for your reply!


I don't think my MIL has come right out and asked him directly, and to me that would be even weirder! That would be like him asking her a few years ago if she was planning on getting a hysterectomy.

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Sun, 12-27-2009 - 2:29pm

Ugh!

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Sun, 12-27-2009 - 7:53pm

I know just what you are saying.

Carol, mom to 7

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Sun, 12-27-2009 - 9:47pm

Well, my MIL brings over "gifts" sometimes like baby clothes, and things like toilet paper and stuff (because she always buys in bulk with coupons), but I always thought of it as something she "wants" to do.


On the other hand, I know there are a lot of grandmas out there who "help out" their adult children because it makes them feel needed, or that because they are "helping out" because we

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Tue, 12-29-2009 - 12:42pm

In my personal opinion, I don't think anyone even

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Tue, 12-29-2009 - 3:29pm

Thanks, Danielle!


I think I would have been less creeped out if she would have come right out and asked me if we were "done", and then expressed any concerns about things like time, age, financies, etc. afterward.

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Wed, 12-30-2009 - 10:33am
Wow, you handled it much better (i.e, nicer) than I would have! I would've responded with something like "when we decide we're done having children." Ugh, how nosey of her. You seem to have a great attitude about your MIL; I simply would've felt like it was none of her business. Best wishes to you!

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