Big vent....Wow, this age thing, on top of
I haven't been here in a couple of weeks. So sorry to hear about that dumb nurse's reaction. People are judgemental period. Be it about your love life, family, career, your
LaRae, What an insensitive jerk that nurse was. Totally unprofessional, and ignorant.
I'm 43, so like you I would walk, not run away from that office. It would only go downhill from there.
My OB is the same one I had at 40, so I'm not expecting anything different, although I got pregnant with the help of IUI this time. My OB did my d&C after our first IUI resulted in a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks, and a fever.
He asked me if I wanted to do that again, another IUI. I said, yeah, just wait until the memory of this 4 days in labor fades significantly.
And here I am seven and half months later, going in for my first u/s. It's all worth it.
I never ever let anybody quiz me down about if this baby was planned or an accident.
Because no child deserves to be labeled like that.. and it implies a judgement that they have no right to make as an OB office.
Because of political correctedness if I walked in as a 40 year old lesbian mother who did donor sperm insemination people would likely bend over backwards not to offend me with questions or comments.
But because I'm a married, stay at home mother to almost six children, people feel free to ask "how old are you?" and ask if we "wanted" another one...
My husband is close to 50, and people sweetly tell me (lying or not) that I don't look 40.... must be those extra pounds fluffing up any wrinkles.
Andy, Gerard, Sarah, Merina and Emma call me Mama,
but you can call me
Thank you so much.
I'm sorry you were treated so badly.
I ended up changing docs with this pg.
ok - add me to the list of everyone else who's really steamin' over that!
I am happy to report that I called my OB from my last pregnancy (nearly 10 yrs ago!) and they are having me come in Friday for a complete
Good for you, LaRae! I'm glad that you were able to switch and go to someone that you already know!
I agree with all the others that the level of unprofessionalism by that office staff was shocking. I would like to think that the doctor(s) would want to know.
I will say, that when I had an unpleasant u/s experience with Benjamin (age 3) I did tel my OB at the next appt. and she got dates and time of appt. to let the referral service (it was a temp u/s tech) know they would not be having her back in their office. The tech made all sorts of rude comments about me being AMA while doing the 20-weeks u/s and had such a flat affect when delivering the gender news that I cried for days...in hindsight, I don't really think I was disappointed to learn I was having a boy, I think I was just shocked by how "old" she made me feel...at 37! HA!!!
Anyway, best wishes with this pregnancy. It's exciting to see everyone's tickers and to see a November due date, b/c it helps me to put into perspective just how very far along I have gotten!!! I will have a 3-month old when you deliver...breast feeding should be going strong; a 3 almost 4-year old in 2 day a week preschool and our miracle IVF baby a KINDERGARTNER!!! Wow!