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|Fri, 03-05-2010 - 9:46pm|
Hello... My name is Krystyne, I'm 42 (as of March 15th) and I have stumbled across this board for reassurance and to get a feeling of how other 40+ Mom's are doing. At the moment I am a bit discouraged. I had my first baby at 40 and she is almost 2 now...I found out I was pregnant again last January (it took us 8 months to conceive) and last week found out I had had a missed miscarriage.... I am very sad, but glad at the same time because I'd rather problems happen earlier than later. Now I find myself sitting here waiting to miscarry doubting if I should continue trying because of my age. I am blaming myself and feeling like sort of a failure. I know that I can conceive...but am feeling discouraged. I feel somewhat alone.... Miscarriage happens to many people but I still somehow feel alone.
Everyone who knows about my situation says, "it's because of your age" and that has brought me down and has made me think they could be right. I have suffered from one previous miscarriage at 39, then got pregnant with my daughter Olivia 5 months later.
I do really want to keep trying....I figure I cannot afford not to keep trying... and think I should really try because there could be a baby in there waiting to meet us...but I am really scared and confused because of what people are telling me. Someone had also said "what is a 41 year old doing trying to have another baby, you already have ONE..be happy with her"...
I am a bit down. Sorry for being a downer. I hope you wonderful ladies have some insight.
I should keep trying once this is all over shouldn't I? It seems like the right thing to do...
THanks in advance..and SORRY about being such a downer.