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|Fri, 03-19-2010 - 9:46pm|
I thought I would introduce myself and join this board. I don't seem to really fit in too well with the other boards that I frequent because I am so much older than the rest of them. Although everyone is nice on the boards but I think I may feel more in tune with women who are closer to my age.
A little background on me - I just turned 43 this past Monday. I was pregnant 2 years ago and about a week before my 41st birthday I had a m/c at 11 weeks. That was my first time being pregnant ever. I was told it was a blighted ovum. So then fast forward to 2 months after that (I had a D&C after the m/c) and I found out we were pregnant again. We were so excited! We found out at the 12 week NT scan that we were having a boy. Like so many of us at this age, they told me that I had a 1 in 20 chance of DS with the baby. Well, for the next month I felt a bit freaked out worrying about it. Not that I wouldn't have the baby but you can't help but worry. So then at 16 weeks I went to have the amnio done. Well, that is when everything went crazy. During the u/s prior to the amnio procedure, it was discovered that our baby boy had a blocked bladder. So at week 16 that was just the beginning of the craziness that I went through during my pregnancy. I had to have the amnio done to see if the baby did in fact have DS (he did not!). Then the following week I had to have not one but two bladder taps (one on a Mon. and one the next day on a Tues.). This is basically the same as having an amnio only the needle goes in further to get to the baby's bladder & draw out his urine for testing of his kidneys. He passed those tests so then it was on to a specialist who eventually performed the surgery where they insert a shunt into his bladder. What happens with the bladder being blocked is that the amnio fluid around the baby becomes decreased more and more. I had the surgery done when I was about 19 weeks along. Then about 3 weeks after that my HR dr. who was following up noticed that things weren't right as the amnio fluid was getting lower. So another round of dr. visits here and there and then before week 26, my HR dr. put me in the hospital on bedrest. He felt that now that there was basically no fluid around the baby that I would go into labor at any time. So I spent Thanksgiving and Christmas 2008 & New Years 08/09 in the hospital. And then at just under 35 weeks (9 weeks of being in the hospital), the dr. decided they would deliver our baby boy. So on Jan. 8th, 2009, Dalton Nicholas was born. He weighed 4 pounds & 10 ounces and he was so beautiful. He was breech so they had to do a c-section. He went straight to the NICU and there he stayed for the next week. On Jan. 15th, 2009, I got to hold him for the very first & last time. He looked so perfect on the outside but was so sick on the inside. It turned out that his left kidney was no longer there and his right kidney wouldn't function & in addition, his lungs never did develop properly due to the lack of fluid. We were so heartbroken but I felt like I did everything I could. I don't think I would have done anything differently.
Then fast forward from losing Dalton to 9 months later and surprise, we are pregnant again! Talk about being a nervous wreck! On Feb. 11th, I had an amnio done (changed OB's & new HR dr. that I really liked!). Turns out the u/s showed us a perfect baby & it is a girl (so no blocked bladder issues as that only happens with boys). DH did want a son again but he is happy with our healthy baby girl. So now I am 22 weeks along and so looking forward to July when I can bring this baby home with us!
Sorry this turned into a novel but I just wanted to share what I had been through and say that there is hope even for someone who is over 40!
I will pray for each of you on this board as I know how hard it is being our age and being pregnant too. We don't have the get up & go of a 20 year old anymore but we hang in there and make do because we so want to be a Mom!
Thank you for allowing me to share a bit of myself with you!