Looking for some hope, pls share :)

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Looking for some hope, pls share :)
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 9:17pm

Hi Ladies:

My name is Lisa..I'm TTC #1 for 3 years :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-01-2009
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 12:22pm

Hey there,

I'm 46 and will be 47 when my baby is born.

My partner (40) and I have been omitting birth control for the past three years, in a sort of hit or miss attempt to see if we could have a child.

Last year we went to a fertility clinic and had a bunch of tests run, just so see if we were still capable. The test showed we were, but of course at my age fertility is on the decline and could cease at any time. The clinic wanted to start treatments to increase our chances, but that felt kind of weird and wrong for us (not to say it's the same for anyone else), so we decided not to do any of the treatments and just see what happened. We figured if we never conceived, it just wasn't meant to be.

We went through another year, and started accepting the idea that we'd never have a child, but now, surprise surprise, here we are.

Of course, I'm still early in my pregnancy, and anything could happen at this point, but I hope my story gives you some kind of hope.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2004
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 1:13pm

Lisa, I was 38 when I married and started TTC, and I will be 42 when our first child is born. I was actually on the waiting list for donor eggs for about 6 months when we tried a couple of new things along with an IUI stim cycle (metformin for newly diagnosed ovulatory PCOS and HGH during 2nd 1/2 of stims for better chances of live birth in older women) and bingo! Finally a sticky, and apparently healthy pregnancy.

If you haven't yet, I do recommend being seen by an RE and at least having fertility testing, and treatment if that feels right to you. If you've been seeing someone for a long time, I highly recommend a second opinion. It was the second opinion that diagnosed me with PCOS and suggested Metformin, which I think may have been the fix for my multiple miscarriages.

- Jenna, 41, DH 38 TTC since September '06 with MFI. 3 failed unmedicated IUI's with DH sperm, 1 failed IUI with injects with DH sperm, IVF #1 BFN, FET BFP but M/c week 5, IVF#2 BFP m/c week 7, IUI with injects and donor sperm: probable chemical pg. 1 failed unmedicated DS/IUI. Started BCP's 7/30 for IVF #3, ER 9/10, ET 9/15, Beta 9/24 results 9/25. BFP, Twins. Lost 1st twin at 9-10 weeks, lost second twin at 16 weeks 12/17/08. Attempted IUI #4 converted to DS/DH IUI April 09 at my request, BFP and M/c. IVF #4 June 09 BFN. DS-IUI w/injects 7/6/09, BFN. Hysteroscopic myomectomy to remove fibroid 7/29/09.Unmedicated DS-IUI 9/09, BFN. DS-IUI with injects, 10/09, BFP and M/C. DH/DS-IUI with injects and HGH, 12/6. BFP! Betas: 12dpo 12/18 58, 14 dpo 12/20 157, 16dpo 12/22 379, 22 dpo 12/28 4,002

- Jenna
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Registered: 10-20-2009
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 5:47pm

Hi, I'm 45 and will deliver our first at 46.

Susan L.

Robert Edward Xavier Lin - Born July 31, 2010 at 5:56AM, 6 pounds 4 ounces and 19 inches long. He spent 2 weeks in the NICU but he's doing great now!
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Registered: 12-08-2009
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 5:57pm

Hi Lisa.

Hang in there and continue to have hope.

My husband and I were diagnosed with male-factor infertility in our mid-30s after multiple losses. We were told that we have a less than 1% chance of ever conceiving on our own.

Well, at age 37, 18-months after having gone thru a successful IVF/ICSI cycle and delivering a baby girl, I found myself pregnant with no medical intervention necessary!

At 39, I went on to conceive again, unfortunately, that conception resulted in a miscarriage. Pathology was not performed; it was just assumed to be a trisomy-related loss.

BUT, at age 40, I have once again found myself pregnant with a healthy conception. I will deliver just shy of my 41st birthday!

You mentioned a diagnosis of "unexplained" infertility...does that mean you are currently seeing an RE?

I follow an interesting blog (see link) b/c even though these last 2 baby conception happened naturally, I'm still fascinated by all the different things that can wrong and interfere with a woman's ability to conceive! It's a miracle any of us have babies...regardless of age!

Please feel free to ask any questions that you might have...my infertility history is sort of an open book with me!



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Registered: 03-05-2008
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 10:32pm

Hello, Lisa, and welcome. I'm glad you heard some stories and life experiences from the other ladies here who struggled with TTC. I've been fortunate to have gotten pregnant four times now without any intervention or medical assistance so I can't offer any first-hand advice other than to say last year my husband and I decided to try for baby #3 in January 2009 (my first pregnancy, at the age of 36, ended in a m/c very early on). We tried for about five months, then decided to stop trying as we began to realize we were not only content, but happy and satisfied with the two young girls we already had (aged 4 and 1 at the time). So of course, as the story so often goes, the month after we stopped trying, and just three weeks before I was scheduled to get the Mirena IUD inserted, I gave all our baby stuff away and boom, wound up pregnant. I know how cliche it sounds, but I can also attest personally to the fact that as soon as we stopped trying to make baby-making a science and reverted back to allowing it be an enjoyable art, I wound up pregnant. There are quite few other women here who have similar stories. I'm not suggesting to stop using any medical or supplemental assistance, etc., but without knowing whether you're presently seeing a fertility specialist and if so, what measures you and/or your partner are taking, I'm just throwing it out there as a consideration for you. Sorry I can't offer you anything more technical or clinical, but I wish you the best no matter what you decide to try or not try. BTW, you may have already visited over there, but there's a TTC Over 40 board here on IV. The link to it in case you want to check it out (if you haven't already) is:


Besti wishes to you. I hope to see you posting here one day soon to announce a BFP!



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Registered: 10-01-2009
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 11:26am

I am 44, and just had a baby 5 weeks ago.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2009
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 4:56pm

Hi Lisa,

I never had any fertility issues, so I don't know how much inspiration I am.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 04-01-2010 - 11:03pm


A big thank you to you all for sharing your experiences with me... I've read all of them more than once when I need a reminder that I have plenty of time and others have TTC'd for a long time too..

so thank you..

I have been to a fertility dr for a couple of years, I went through all of the testing...did 3 rounds of clomid and nothing..

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Registered: 02-08-2007
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 7:15pm


Don't give up. After some difficulty, DH and I were blessed with our wonderful daughter 2 months before my 40th birthday.

After trying for a second for 2 years we finally gave up. We had always wanted 2 children but with each loss it just got to be too much. I went back on the pill so that I wouldn't be curious every month anymore. After a few months we were convinced this was the right decision.

Long story short, I guess the new pills my doctor put me on didn't work as well as the old ones did. Our little Christmas miracle is due to arrive on my 43rd birthday. You never know what can happen.

My fingers are crossed for you,