Grape juice toast to NYC!

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Registered: 03-19-2010
Grape juice toast to NYC!
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Mon, 04-12-2010 - 2:02pm

I love living in New York City for many reason, but, lately, a new one moved toward the top of the list. In NYC, it is common for women to have babies, including first babies, in their early and mid-forties. I have 2 friends and several acquaintances who had babies after 40 (and I knew them before they had their babies). On the other hand, someone having a baby at 21 would raise eyebrows.

When I had my first at 40 (now pregnant with my second at almost 42), my OB told me that no high-risk pregnancy specialist would see me based on my age alone, because having babies at my age is so common in NYC.

They say the most difficult problem a woman in her 40’s who wants to have a baby faces is getting pregnant, so we have overcome that one already. Certain risks do rise, but we still have overwhelming odds of having a healthy baby. And studies show that older parents are more patient, financially secure, and have fewer regrets.

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Registered: 03-05-2008
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 8:46am
Hello there, and welcome. Congratulations on your pregnancy. It sounds like you're quite fortunate to live in a community where pregnancy after 40 is more the norm than the exception. I hope your pregnancy is progressing along well. Maybe you could post a formal introduction so we know a little more about you -- how far along you are, how you're feeling, any concerns or questions you have, etc.. Thanks for popping in. I hope to hear more from you.
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Registered: 12-08-2009
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 12:58pm

Interesting about NYC; not that it really surprises me.

I, on the other hand, live in the heart of the midwest, where child-rearing begins early. Not so for my husband and me. We struggled with infertility for years and did not have our first baby (via IVF/ICSI) until I was 35. We had our 2nd baby (a surprise bonus)when I was 37 and now I am having our 3rd baby (another bonus) at 40 (I'll turn 41 a few weeks after delivery...a baby for my birthday!).

Having children at my age has kept me feeling young, but I will say that I sometimes don't fit in with the other mommies (especially when I was teaching). There's just something different about having your first at 35 versus 24! In a lot of ways, I am just much more confident and laid back about issues such as sleeping thru the night; breast versus bottle; potty training, etc. Life's just too short to get worked up over such things! LOL

Looking forward to learning more about you,
Valerie

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Registered: 03-19-2010
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 1:50pm
I am turning 42 this May, have a 22 months old son, and am now 8 weeks along (have first dr’s appointment this Thursday). I work full time (transactional lawyer). I got married at 39 (first marriage for us both) and was fortunate to conceive naturally.

The one thing that I have not noticed among NYC moms, whether in their 30’s or 40’s is a relaxed attitude toward breastfeeding. If someone chose not to breastfeed although she is able to, she would rather confess to being responsible for the financial crisis. And those who are not able to, despite their best efforts, are full of guilt. There’s a store close to where I live on Upper West Side called “Upper Breast Side,” where women are too intimidated to go unless they are exclusively breastfeeding. Although I was, I made it a point to get supplies elsewhere.
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Registered: 10-24-2009
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 5:55pm

I live in northern NJ, but we get the NYC refugees (the ones who can't make it there- so many people give up when they have a second child.