Surprise Pregnancy at 41

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Registered: 06-26-2010
Surprise Pregnancy at 41
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 1:00am

Hi I'm 41 and have PCOS.


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Registered: 06-24-2010
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 10:29am

Welcome and congratulations! I am actually new here myself...and am 41 as well. This is my first pregnancy.

I don't think you are too late for screening tests at all. The triple screen blood test can be done during the 15th and 20th week, as can amniocentesis. We were nervous about the increased risk of birth defects, being older, but the risk of Down's Syndrome at 41 is only 1 in 119. That's a slightly less than 1% chance, and more than 99% that the baby won't have Down's. (The risk for ANY birth defect is a bit higher, but still less than 2%, which to me is still pretty reassuring.)

I look forward to hearing more about your journey!

5 weeks
Due Date: 2/25/11

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2010
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 6:48pm

Hi Kristen,

I am 42 and also was shocked to learn I was pregnant.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 11:04pm

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I am Carol, and I am 46, expecting #7. This will be my 4th baby born in my 40s. I had my last 3 at 40, 42 and 45 and they are all fine. So far this one looks good too. There are a lot of negative statistics out there, but there are also a lot of women with perfectly normal babies at our age. And hey, you are almost 1/2 way already!

I always have the level II ultrasound done at 20 weeks--it looks more closely at the baby. I have never done any of the invasive testing, figure I am going to have my babies no matter what comes. Happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy!

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Carol, mom to 7

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Registered: 06-26-2010
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 11:07pm

Hi Kristen, Cheryl

Congratulations to both of you! I think I am still in shock at the moment but I know I will get used to the idea in time.

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Sat, 07-03-2010 - 1:48pm

Congratulations on your pg!

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Registered: 03-19-2010
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 5:42pm

Dear Stunned,

Check out this book; funny and well written. She found out she was 24 weeks pregnant at age 44, after being diagnozed as infertile 14 years earlier. She had very mixed emotions about the pregnancy.

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Registered: 03-22-2010
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 2:59am

I was also stunned to find myself pregnant at 41.

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Registered: 12-08-2009
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:27pm

Dear Stunned!

Congratulations on your most recent pregnancy! Can I just say that I understand a little bit of your shock as our first born was conceived via IVF/ICSI in 2004. We were told that we had a less than 1% chance of ever conceiving on our own and that if we didn't do IVF/ICSI we would need to use donor sperm or consider childless living.

Well, I am now expecting baby #3, our second boy, and our 2nd spontaneous conception!!! I too was drinking, taking aspirin, no prenatal tablets or folic acid, etc. After being referred to our perinatologist (due to high risk issues) he assured me that 90% of the world's babies are conceived w/o folic acid and that many women engage in the same behaviors including illicit drug use (which I do not), so I felt much better!

Wishing you a wonderful and happy 5 months ahead (ha!)!!!


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Registered: 07-16-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 6:55pm
Hi everyone! I'm suprised I'm here but really needed to read some positve thoughts. I'm 40 and have 2 living children, ages 9 & 8 yrs. I had a suprise miscarriage last year and told myself I was going to be careful and start using b/c wisely! Well, fast forward to this week, after a missing period (I'm verrrry regular) and I tested + for pregnancy. I'm not shocked...just don't know what's going to happen. My husband and I are so busy with life, the kids....seems like we hardly ever have sex! I'm shocked only because I was not this fertile in my 20s.

7 Weeks PG and Happy! 


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Registered: 07-27-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 12:55pm

After 3 previous miscarriages in the last 4 years, I don't know whether to be happy or not. The first