DS afraid of in-laws - What 2 do?

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Registered: 01-05-2008
DS afraid of in-laws - What 2 do?
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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 12:19am

My in-laws live about 80 miles from us so we probably only see them on special occasions and holidays.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2004
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 10:26pm

What an awkward sitution, but I know where you're coming from.

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Registered: 03-05-2008
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 10:33pm

Oh, Rachelle!

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Tue, 03-10-2009 - 2:47pm

Well, I would agree with your DH that your son will not remember any of this, and you are not 'emotionally scarring' him. Lots of kids make strange for all sorts of reasons. Maybe your son is not used to being with different people often, so only has his own small group of people he feels comfortable with. But that will chage as he gets older.

My inlaws live overseas and we only see them maybe 3 times a year max. What I used to do is to show the baby some photos of the family , actually they are on my refridgerater, so he 'knows' them or has some kind of picture in his head so is not too phased when he meets them.

Anyway, I would relax about the whole thing. Next time you meet them he will be older and possibly over this phase, especially if you have shown him the photos and he has a visual picture that they are familiar.

It is a difficult situation for your DH. No one wants to hurt their parents feelings when they are trying to get to know their grandchild. So I would choose my battles here and hope it improves with age (both them and your DS!)

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Registered: 01-05-2008
Tue, 03-10-2009 - 11:15pm

Even though my son will not remember any of this, doesn't give my IL's an excuse to be rude, selfish and inconsiderate.

 

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Registered: 02-01-2008
Wed, 03-11-2009 - 1:36pm

You know one thing you might try when Esai is a bit older is using a webcam to keep in touch with grandparents.

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Registered: 01-05-2008
Wed, 03-11-2009 - 4:57pm

That is a great suggestion!